DON’T GIVE UP!
!!! (I didnt write this but I believe it)To begin again means that you won’t give up.
To begin again means you’re trying.
You can either start over and live your life
Or spend the rest of your life slowly dying.
It is never the falling that makes us fail.
It is never the pain or the crying.
You can never fail in life, my friend,
Unless you give up trying.
–Bob Perks
It seems lately that more and more of my friends are facing some seemingly insurmountable challenges in their lives. A few have lost their jobs and some have failed marriages. All too many have health issues or are battling cancer.
I don’t know if it is desperation that causes them to turn to me for advice or whether they have come to value our friendship. But it is difficult, to say the least, to offer words of hope when all they feel is hopeless. They expect answers, some magic waving of a wand, or a roadmap to get them back on their feet again.
I have often struggled with what to say. Mostly because I have faced many of the same challenges in my own life, I remember how empty I felt after someone cheerfully offered words like, “Keep your chin up!” “Things will get better!” “Hang in there!” “It’s always darkest…,” etc.
Yes, even those who were quick to quote the Bible to me found me quite unreceptive at the time.
Now, as an inspiration writer, being thought of as a resource of hope or a good (or bad) example of what to do in life, I have even more people contacting me.
So, what do I say?
“What can I do, Bob? I’ve lost my job. What do you suggest?”
“Begin again.”
“He walked out on me. My whole world just ended. What should I do?”
“Begin again.”
“Bob, I know both your son and your wife had cancer. I found out my wife does, too. What did you tell them?”
“Begin again.”
It almost sounds too simple. I imagine in the darkest hours of one’s life, those words would seem useless or uncaring. But it is indeed the answer.
All life challenges bring about an ending–and the chance for a beginning. A job loss presents an opportunity to start over somewhere else and maybe even in another career.
A failed marriage does not mean you are through loving or being loved. It means there are others just like you needing to be loved. Find them.
A life-threatening disease does not mean giving up. It means starting a new path to recovery and discovering within yourself the ability to fight back and win.
And if you are a person of faith, even death does not mean it’s over. It means “to begin again.”
_Related Features the bottom line is this: Only you can move you, only you can feel you, only you can live you and only you can change you. It is when you lose sight of this reality that you feel lost and hopeless. By saying “I can’t do this anymore,” you give up responsibility, and when you don’t accept responsibility, you find yourself at the mercy of the world around you. The truth is that you CAN change and it all begins with the next decision that you make. Choose wisely today because it is YOU who controls your destiny.
TAKE RESPNSIBILITY, GAIN CONTROL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of you and your life.!! Start with YOU, Instead of blaming others or circumstances for how you feel, Take resp. for your own emotions. they are yours. Take control of your thoughts by removing phrases like ‘ ‘You make me mad’ , I can’t help how I feel’ etc..by just being aware of your thoughts you are moving toward, growing, changing , evolving for a beneficial, healthy ,fullfilling life you were meant to live. If you find this hard to do, it is fear, unfounded fear . Fear of change and fear of the unknown. Fight through the fear by facing it. When you feel the struggle know that its just habits, behavioral and mental that have gotten comfortable. This is the time to look in the mirror and affirm ‘ I’am a fighter ‘ Then feel the Power in that statement.Habit, however, is the enemy of change. Habit keeps you stuck by not allowing you to see other options that are also available to you at the time. Part of the solution lies in being patient, refusing to give up and being mindful of the choices that you make. The key to making successful lifestyle changes demands that you simply refuse to fail. Refusing to give up is the single most important weapon you can have in your arsenal when it comes to making healthy lifestyle changes. * Note to self- add grateful prayer. John H. Sclare (from innerdiet.com )shared “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift! That’s why we call it the “present!” I love this ! Respect Life!
The word CAN”T is a very powerful word You see, once you’ve convinced yourself that you can’t make the changes necessary to create healthy change, you’ve lost all hope of succeeding. The truth is that you CAN but, for whatever reason, you have accepted this false premise that you can’t. I call this the psychology of self-deception. Can’t is trap that robs you of power and blinds you to your own personal power. On the other hand, the word Won’t puts the power and responsibility right back in your hands – precisely where it belongs.
By saying “I can’t” the woman above gives up responsibility, and when you don’t accept responsibility for your behavior, you find yourself at the mercy of the world around you. It is when you lose sight of this reality that you feel, like the woman above, lost, frustrated and hopeless. The truth is that you CAN change your lifestyle. You must first foster and nurture that belief and then take the actions necessary to make it happen. So the next time you catch yourself thinking “No I can’t” challenge that thought with “Yes I can!”
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DON’T GIVE UP!!!! To begin again means that you won’t give up.
To begin again means you’re trying.
You can either start over and live your life
Or spend the rest of your life slowly dying.
It is never the falling that makes us fail.
It is never the pain or the crying.
You can never fail in life, my friend,
Unless you give up trying.
–Bob Perks
It seems lately that more and more of my friends are facing some seemingly insurmountable challenges in their lives. A few have lost their jobs and some have failed marriages. All too many have health issues or are battling cancer.
I don’t know if it is desperation that causes them to turn to me for advice or whether they have come to value our friendship. But it is difficult, to say the least, to offer words of hope when all they feel is hopeless. They expect answers, some magic waving of a wand, or a roadmap to get them back on their feet again.
I have often struggled with what to say. Mostly because I have faced many of the same challenges in my own life, I remember how empty I felt after someone cheerfully offered words like, “Keep your chin up!” “Things will get better!” “Hang in there!” “It’s always darkest…,” etc.
Yes, even those who were quick to quote the Bible to me found me quite unreceptive at the time.
Now, as an inspiration writer, being thought of as a resource of hope or a good (or bad) example of what to do in life, I have even more people contacting me.
So, what do I say?
“What can I do, Bob? I’ve lost my job. What do you suggest?”
“Begin again.”
“He walked out on me. My whole world just ended. What should I do?”
“Begin again.”
“Bob, I know both your son and your wife had cancer. I found out my wife does, too. What did you tell them?”
“Begin again.”
It almost sounds too simple. I imagine in the darkest hours of one’s life, those words would seem useless or uncaring. But it is indeed the answer.
All life challenges bring about an ending–and the chance for a beginning. A job loss presents an opportunity to start over somewhere else and maybe even in another career.
A failed marriage does not mean you are through loving or being loved. It means there are others just like you needing to be loved. Find them.
A life-threatening disease does not mean giving up. It means starting a new path to recovery and discovering within yourself the ability to fight back and win.
And if you are a person of faith, even death does not mean it’s over. It means “to begin again.”
_Related Features the bottom line is this: Only you can move you, only you can feel you, only you can live you and only you can change you. It is when you lose sight of this reality that you feel lost and hopeless. By saying “I can’t do this anymore,” you give up responsibility, and when you don’t accept responsibility, you find yourself at the mercy of the world around you. The truth is that you CAN change and it all begins with the next decision that you make. Choose wisely today because it is YOU who controls your destiny.
TAKE RESPNSIBILITY, GAIN CONTROL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of you and your life.!! Start with YOU, Instead of blaming others or circumstances for how you feel, Take resp. for your own emotions. they are yours. Take control of your thoughts by removing phrases like ‘ ‘You make me mad’ , I can’t help how I feel’ etc..by just being aware of your thoughts you are moving toward, growing, changing , evolving for a beneficial, healthy ,fullfilling life you were meant to live. If you find this hard to do, it is fear, unfounded fear . Fear of change and fear of the unknown. Fight through the fear by facing it. When you feel the struggle know that its just habits, behavioral and mental that have gotten comfortable. This is the time to look in the mirror and affirm ‘ I’am a fighter ‘ Then feel the Power in that statement.Habit, however, is the enemy of change. Habit keeps you stuck by not allowing you to see other options that are also available to you at the time. Part of the solution lies in being patient, refusing to give up and being mindful of the choices that you make. The key to making successful lifestyle changes demands that you simply refuse to fail. Refusing to give up is the single most important weapon you can have in your arsenal when it comes to making healthy lifestyle changes. * Note to self- add grateful prayer. John H. Sclare (from innerdiet.com )shared “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift! That’s why we call it the “present!” I love this ! Respect Life!
The word CAN”T is a very powerful word You see, once you’ve convinced yourself that you can’t make the changes necessary to create healthy change, you’ve lost all hope of succeeding. The truth is that you CAN but, for whatever reason, you have accepted this false premise that you can’t. I call this the psychology of self-deception. Can’t is trap that robs you of power and blinds you to your own personal power. On the other hand, the word Won’t puts the power and responsibility right back in your hands – precisely where it belongs.
By saying “I can’t” the woman above gives up responsibility, and when you don’t accept responsibility for your behavior, you find yourself at the mercy of the world around you. It is when you lose sight of this reality that you feel, like the woman above, lost, frustrated and hopeless. The truth is that you CAN change your lifestyle. You must first foster and nurture that belief and then take the actions necessary to make it happen. So the next time you catch yourself thinking “No I can’t” challenge that thought with “Yes I can!”
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