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Flirting help.

OK, I do realize that about 90% of the topics here are about love life difficulties, and i hate to add to that, but i need some input. This girl and I have started hanging out, which is a relief becasue i was girl-less for quite some time. So last weekend, we went to the movies. We regularly talk on the phone, trade rides to school, etc. We were orignally hooked up via a mutual friend, so we both entered this knowing that we liked each other, and we established that already (i often have doubts about wether or not a girl is interested in me, so its nice to know i have a green light from the start).

So, my difficulty now, is that i don’t know what to do as far as flirting. It comes very naturally to some people; it does not to me. I don’t have any difficulty just talking, but when it comes to anything flirtatious, i seize up and cant do a **** thing. Plus, i don’t really know waht to say besides ‘you look nice’. It’s also hard to touch her, partially becasue i don’t know how fast she likes to move. Basically, i get nervous, scared, etc, and i really want this to work out. I want to be able to communicate with her, not just conversation but relaying emotions too, which is unnatural for me; i need all the help i can get…So, any advice you guys/girls have, tips, explanations, opinions; anything, anything would be really really awesome, thankyou!

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Azimuth offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

Buy her lunch.

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fenruorki offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

lolz… buy her lucnh… lmao… but just be your self, go at her pace, ask for her phone number if u dont already have it and just talk 2 her, and try 2 show her u like her by, like, idk lolz… umm ask her 2 go see a movie with u or somethin if she has time… pretty much just spend time with her,

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passengerseat offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (29 minutes after post)

don’t think too far into it, just take the time to get to know her and you’ve probably heard this so many times before, but just be yourself. it’s not worth it getting into a realationship with someone you can’t be yourself around, because then they don’t really like you for who you are but rather a person you’re trying to be.

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walnut tree offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 14 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 53 minutes after post)

yep. passengerseat’s right! just be yourself and do anything that you feel is right.

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Raven89 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 hours, 26 minutes after post)

I had the same problem at the beginning of my relationship. Start out by holding her hand. She’ll love it. After that hold her by the side. Surprise her by grabbing her around the waist gently. There’s nothing wrong with going slow, just be sure and keep her attention.

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jewel_faith5 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
US | 1 year ago (10 hours, 6 minutes after post)

when it comes to the pace of a relationship… just go w/ the flow

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pluto_goddes offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Austin, TX, US | 1 year ago (10 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Like everyone else said, be natural, try to like slyly touch her, not inappropriately but just on the arm or back. Be close, have fun, just joke around, be silly and cute. But most of all read her reactions.

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