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Men can have a system of streching away and springing back like a rubber band (don’t blame me, I read this in a psychology book in uni). They have specific pattern when they should return happily or need their space. its wired into most male brains. But perhaps you should speak to him and tell him your worries. Have you been over-friendly, and now he thinks your annoying? men hate possessive girls supposedly, unless they already feel a good connection with them, then its just annoying. :P They also need a fire-gazing period after a hard day at work or school for roughly an hour where they want their own space to reflect on the days issues. Remember that men’s brains are wired t problem solve and think spacially. They are by nature as not good communicaters as women, and also remmeber they have been brought up with predjuices that affect their everyday thinking to. sorry about grammer and speling, its gone out the window on this one. :)
If this sounds sexist I apologize, its just a statement about the average man, I’m not aying they are all like this, but this is what I learned. :)

nahhh I can’t speak to him about it because I hardly know him, plus we’re never ever alone coz at least of our friends are with us.

And nahh i havent been overly friendly or anything, i just treat him the way he treats me. If he’s happy then i’ll act happy, if he avoids eye contact with him then i won’t talk to him. sigh now i think its my fault

Don’t think its your fault, I think he’s just giving off mixed signals and confusing you. If you trust someone get them to mention something to him about your feelings in a casual, offhand sort of way and to tell you how he reacts. I know it is cringe worthy but thats my method of finding out a boys feelings about me and I have asked out two men successfully using this method. :)

All guys have a habit of doing this…and trust me I know. I’m like the only girl in my friendship group that will help the boys out with their problems. Basically I think he isn’t sure how to act arould you so hes being reserved and then hes getting up the courage to be more outgoing and friendly. But then maybe he’s thought back on it and been like ‘Maybe I was too friendly,’ And so he has gone back to being reserved. The best thing to do is get a trusted friend to ask him or to ask him yourself.

Hope this helps.

Okay AmandaLynn…I think your being really harsh on her shes unsure and probably not feeling that confident about going up and asking him about it so bashing her in that way isn’t going to help in anyway at all. Shes asking what other people would do in this situation thats all you need to give her.