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i ♥ love julio ! wrote:
id go out with your girlfriend but go to your friends party just take her with you

Thought about it. See I work from 3-8, she works till 11, and the party starts at I guess a little after 10.

If only it were that easy. Neither of us has a ride. I usually walk how ever far to get to her. My friends party’s in the boondocks and she’s in town. Also, her mom’s a paranoid mess at the moment and just about anytime I’m alone with her she thinks our pants are at our ankles XD
Also, neither of us smokes or drinks but she has a stronger opposition to users than I do.

EmilyRI wrote:
blah blah blah. If you really wanted her to go with you, you would figure out a way.Why would you risk something bad happening by putting yourself in such a dangerous situation?You really should be honest with her instead of isolating her because she has different views than you.

It’s not exactly isolating and I respect her views, why do you think I came to this site for such a personal question? She’s working at a haunted house which is most likely gonna be fun. Why do I have to go to work then go straight home? ON HALLOWEEN no less. I’m just caught is a situation of internal conflicts.

I definitly should have elaborated the question to cover some shoot-and-miss spots. Sorry about that.

burgerkrieg wrote:
I would say if it is a situation where she is not constantly giving you a hard time for going out and having fun, then humor her. It obviously means a lot to her, and any self sacrifice you give will probably mean even more. Don’t let her control you and ruin your fun, but you need to find a compromise for this situation I believe.

I got a bit confused by your first line but I think I got it. She does give me a hard time depending on the definition of “fun”. Drinking and smoking are unacceptable to her which works for me considering I don’t do either. I’m trying to find that “middle gound”. According to her she doesn’t want me to go period. I’d rather spend time with her but it’s virtually impossible. I can’t go to her house, not at 11 at night because her mother seeks her safety. I can’t go see her after work because she made me promise her not to walk at night (she’s had friends pass away on the road at night) and I work across town from her. Maybe I should just give up on having fun tonight and save it for another night. Just go home.

Thank you all but I gotta go now. Thanks.