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Explanation for my Absence

So yeah, lately I haven’t been too active and I figured the best thing to do was to shed a little light on what’s been going on.

I’ve been extremely busy with my college life; grad school applications, studying for the GREs, classes and everything on top of that. My job keeps me bogged down as does my research but all in all I’m really starting to enjoy myself and.. not feel the hurt as much anymore.

My ex has decided to go back to the guy that completely deceived her on the internet, pretending he was someone he wasn’t. She says she loves him despite having to pretend to be someone else to make her fall in love with him and she hasn’t even met him in person yet so yeah. Since that was the case, I completely dropped that and I’m tired of it. I’m not dealing with it anymore and that’s that.

To top it off, I sort of met someone. I work with her and that’s how we sort of met and we’ve been hanging out a lot lately. She apparently went through some pretty rough times this summer too and for some reason because what happened between her and her ex, her group of friends sided with him so she has no friends apparently. I’m having a Halloween party tonight and I told her she’s coming over and meeting all my friends and thus she’s going to have friends and she didn’t have a choice. Haha.. yeah. We’ll see where things go, but all in all.. things are going okay. I’m still twisted in my emotions but I’m just trying to ignore it all.

Again, I’m sorry that I’ve pretty much have been inactive lately and I don’t really know how active I’ll be in the future. I’m going to check back every now and then like I usually do to see how things are going with the people I associate, but yeah.. haha. I hope everyone is doing well :)

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evansent 2008 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

helllllllllllllllooooooooooooooooo
im made up your finally moving on lv:)
have a ball tonight

speak soon :)

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EmilyRI offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

Yess! Thanks for the update. Things look like they’re going quite well for you which is fantastic news!! I bet you’re excited for tonight!
What are you going as?

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

evansent 2008 wrote:
helllllllllllllllooooooooooooooooo
im made up your finally moving on lv:)
have a ball tonight

speak soon :)

Haha yeah, I’ma try to have a blast tonight.

EmilyRI wrote:
Yess! Thanks for the update. Things look like they’re going quite well for you which is fantastic news!! I bet you’re excited for tonight!
What are you going as?

Yeah things are going all right. I’ve just come to the point where I’m not going to let anything get to me anymore because it’s just not worth it.
Haha my friend and I are going as the blues brothers. I’m going to be dan akroid and he’s going to be john belluci.

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EmilyRI offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

Ahaha that’s funny! Take pictures!!
You’re smart for making yourself re-think things. It’s really a challenge to do but you really have to start looking out for the well-being of yourself before anyone else’s. Selfish it may seem but how can you expect to help anyone if you can barely help yourself!

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

Haha oh believe me there will be plenty of pictures. I went out and bought rechargeable batteries last night just because!
Yeah I know what you mean. I mean I was really hoping she could see through all this and possibly come out of it a stronger person, but obviously she got sucked right back into it because she’s so easily influenced and I don’t need that in my life.

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Penguin B☺y Brian offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

woooooooooo

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

oooh im glad your happier now! =D

i hope everything goes well with that girl! and with your halloween party tonight!!

good luck! xoxo

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kully303 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (30 minutes after post)

Go nucking futs tonight and post some pics of you and that girl. Hope things go well and if they don’t… Well just keep us posted on what happens I’m sure we all wanna see what happens.

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

αиgєl♥ wrote:
oooh im glad your happier now! =D

i hope everything goes well with that girl! and with your halloween party tonight!!

good luck! xoxo

Haha yeah I hope everything goes great tonight too. I’m doing better than I was a few weeks ago that’s for sure :) Haha yeah, she’s growing on me, but I’m still not sure at this point if I’m ready to open myself up to anyone again, but I don’t want to limit myself.

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c-eek offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

Thank you for letting us know that you are doing well. You are a very special guy and we are counting on you to help find the cure for cancer. When you take time off from help.com to study, you are progressing toward that goal so we will just have to sit tight and wait for you. It is great that your social life is improving, too. We need healthy, happy cancer researchers, don’t we?

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

ohh youre researching to find the cure for cancer?! :O

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____________________ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours after post)

Hey Tzu, thanks for the update =). Good for you, man. Move on, have fun, find someone who deserves you! I’m doing the same thing man. Happy Halloween! Hope you enjoy it!

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 33 minutes after post)

c-eek wrote:
Thank you for letting us know that you are doing well. You are a very special guy and we are counting on you to help find the cure for cancer. When you take time off from help.com to study, you are progressing toward that goal so we will just have to sit tight and wait for you. It is great that your social life is improving, too. We need healthy, happy cancer researchers, don’t we?

Haha yeah, I’m glad my social life is getting better too. My circle of friends expanded dramatically once I got back to college.

αиgєl♥ wrote:
ohh youre researching to find the cure for cancer?! :O

Yeah I’m hopefully going to study to try to find a cure for cancer. It’s actually pretty close to being done, I just want to work more towards it after I graduate in the spring.

JahRadio wrote:
Hey Tzu, thanks for the update =). Good for you, man. Move on, have fun, find someone who deserves you! I’m doing the same thing man. Happy Halloween! Hope you enjoy it!

Yeah I mean this girl I met is awesome, when I hang out with her I have a lot of fun with her and everything, but it’s hard to think romantically about her. I think I just have to give it some more time, I dunno it’s just still sorta hard because I never thought I’d be where I am right now haha. I’m glad for you too that you’re trying to move on as well. I hope everything is going well for you also. :) Happy Halloween.

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 42 minutes after post)

THATS SO COOL!
hahaha good luck =D its close to being done?!?! :O

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SingerInPurple offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 hours, 29 minutes after post)

YAY! things are getting better! See! They always do…I’m so happy for you…haha, I hope you have fun at your halloween party!

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 hours, 55 minutes after post)

αиgєl♥ wrote:
THATS SO COOL!
hahaha good luck =D its close to being done?!?! :O

Haha yeah, I mean there’s a lot of research going on in different fields that different approaches are sort of working out. There’s one method I’m really interested in studying.

SingerInPurple wrote:
YAY! things are getting better! See! They always do…I’m so happy for you…haha, I hope you have fun at your halloween party!

Yeah I know, I mean I tried really hard.. The party was a blast last night. But I think I messed up :/

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Musicsoccer12 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

it is awesome to see ur back ive been waiting for another post it’s kinda dry around here and ive been lookin for somthin good to reply to.

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

how was the party?

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angel♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

oh oops… just read one of your replies…. “The party was a blast last night” hahaha my bad :P but glad it was good =D

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

Haha yeah I mean the party was awesome. Tonight was really fun too except she started to get a little sick because she sort of mixed drinks but I walked her to her apartment and made sure she was all right even though she was adamant about being all right to walk home alone. I wasn’t going to let that happen though so I just went with her.

I think tomorrow I’m just going to let it all out. Tell her outright how I feel and put my heart on the line.. even though I’m really scared of doing it.. but I just really need to know how she feels about this. Everyone sees that she’s into me, but she hasn’t given me any sort of positive reinforcement at all and I just know it’s because she’s shy and nervous. We’ll see though, I just don’t want to make it awkward because she’s so cool to hang out with..

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Sans offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 10 hours after post)

Glad to see you back Tzubake. Looks like things are going your way.

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Tzubake offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 days, 4 hours after post)

Yeah, I’ve been trying extremely hard sans haha.. I mean.. really I’ve been trying excrutiatingly hard to get past things and just.. live my life. So far things are working out for me.

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kmichelle offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 days, 5 hours after post)

Good job, Evan. I’m glad you’ve finally gotten over her b.s. You’re better than that, and I’m so happy for the fact that you finally realized it. ♥

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