life help: it struck me last night that who really knows what happens when - Help.com

umm you shouldn’t because like you said “who really knows?” we could become dust and dirt when we die but then we could go onto such a thing as an afterlife. who knows, you just gotta find something to believe in.

yeah i know that feeling all to well. my parents got divorced some years back and my girlfriend left me for this guy she cheated on me with. i thought about ending it to. i went for the gun and loaded it. i thought about everything i’d been through and what i’d leave behind. i decided it wasn’t worth it so i pulled the trigger. the bullet was a dud and so was the next one. take it from me, suicide is not a good idea.

There is no one here that I can think of, that can tell you what happens when you die. You see, as far as I am aware, there is no one who uses this site that is dead. It might look that way sometimes, I assure though that we are all alive.
Now why you should not blow your brains out. This by the way is a question that often comes up on here.
So here come some of the most common answers.
1. None of us here wants you to do that. That’s because we care.
2. It would upset us and others that you know. because they all care.
3. You realy dont want to do it. You just feel realy down.

We start over in another life, but only our energy passes on, not our memories or our thoughts. Energy cannot be created or destroyed, so it must be reused, but it is the only thing that goes on to fortify another life. The next life that our energy creates, however, may not necessarily be human.

So to answer your question, if you kill yourself, you yourself as a person will not move on create another life. Only your energy, which is not personal and will not retain anything you have now, not even your shape and thoughts, will reenter this world.

Hello everyone, Do you all think it might be helpful to talk about what’s going on inside of you abit? To get your feelings out instead of internalizing them?

There is meaning to this life it is just that perhaps you haven’t allowed yourself to find it. You can give yourselves permission to be somewhat happy in an unforgiving world. You all are entitled to the happiness that everyone tries to attain.

We are here for you.

Just because we get older doesn’t mean that life is over… you need to find things that interest you, find a passion and that will be your starting line. But first let’s tackle the issues at hand…

i was a bit confused and then angry cause i saw it as me failing at another thing. but now that i look back at it, i see that i have a reason to be here. i don’t know what my purpose may be but that doesn’t stop me from living on.

It is not the saddest thing I’ve ever heard. It shows that you have human compassion, a quality lacking in some others and definitely worth living for.

Then please make it nothing.

i’m not sure. i’m just gonna keep living until i find it. i am determined to find my purpose in life and if i don’t, at least i can say i tried.

i agree with warren completely. there is no such thing as being alone. there are always others like you somewhere. that kept me going for awhile and i’m glad to say that i can use what i’ve done and been through to help others.

HUGS to you all! You know life is really … extremely crappy at times, but you all show such strength and such authentic character that is admirable!

Take it one day at a time… have any of you been to support groups to help?

Fair, why do you believe yourself to be this way? Help us understand because what you see isn’t what others see what are your expectations of yourself?

Therin lies the start to your answer. You have to start to want to believe in yourself. This makes it so much easier for others to believe in you as well. It is for others as well, including your girlfriend, you should want to do this for, as well as yourself.

ok so you’re girlfriend is nothing? you’re family is nothing? you’re friends are nothing? i would love to have my ex back. i would love for my parents not to have gotten divorced. but i’m still here, fighting against everything that’s trying to break me. you can’t give up. it might seem good but it isn’t.

you’ll only drag her down if you don’t let her pull you up.

It sounds like you want to be loved, we all want that, and this day and age that is hard…
the point is that you are here and you have made it this far, why quit now? You never know when opportunity or love may be around the corner…

Love does begin within yourself, how can you give unconditional love to someone if you can’t give it to yourself? Instead of being your own worst enemy, try becoming someone you can be a friend to… that starts with trusting yourself, your instincts, your values, your goals… and set up some boundaries… emotional ones for yourself not to cross and not to allow others to cross them.

We cannot please everyone all of the time, and in my 35 years of life I have learned that the opportunities to pleasing someone and getting the pat on the back are few and far between.

Things come and go.. and to be honest, bigger house, bigger car… just takes more work and money to upkeep… they are meaningless when it comes to matters of the heart… and please don’t think that using these things will enable you a better lifestyle… Sure it may be fun for awhile, but you will sure know who your friends are… when the money’s all gone, and the car has a flat, or needs engine repair… life has it’s own sorts of problems no matter what tax bracket you are in.

Do what you can for the here and now. Admit mistakes and try to do better… what you already have been doing…

it should mean a lot to you. if i had a bunch of people saying that about me, i’d be a lot happier. sometimes it’s a good idea to listen to what people say.