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Why hasn’t my friend called me yet?

I’m not the type of person who is needy for attention with friends, but lately I seem to be feeling that way. My long-time friend e-mailed me earlier in the week to see if I would be in town this weekend, to see if we could spend some time together…I called her and left a message to tell her I would love to see her…and then I never heard from her. I finally sent her a text message, asking if she’d gotten my v-mail, and she said she had but never had the time to respond to it.

This wouldn’t be a big deal, but laltely she’s been doing this a lot–she’ll call and we’ll make tentative plans, and then I never hear from her when it’s time to set things up. It’s annoying and hurtful to me, because I feel like I’ve got all these mixed signals!
Anyway, we are supposed to get together tonight, but it’s getting later and later and I have yet to hear from her. I’m kind of resistant to calling her myself, because I’m always the one who calls lately! I don’t get it. Why would she express interest in hanging out if she apparently doesn’t care (enough to contact me about plans?)?!
Ugh. I’m really sick of feeling like a needy chick. What’s going on?

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YouWIsH offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

i think ur friend may just have alot going on and is just overwhelmed..i dont think it has anything to do with u…y dont u try to talk to her when u to get together and just let her know u miss ur frined and how u feel…just dont whine!

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 191 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

I had a friend who was like that. We met and were very good friends in hi school. Then she stopped reaching out. I got tired of it.

My suggestion, try to stop reaching out. It is going to tire you off.

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

You are too available for her. Next time she calls and wants to make a “date”, tell her you already have plans, maybe next time. No matter how hard it will be. See how she reacts or ever calls back after that. She doesn’t sound like someone who really wants to see you. Women would move heaven and earth to be with her loved one or with someone she really likes.

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