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Inconsiderate friend bumming me out…

Here’s the (rather long, sorry) story.

My closest friend has been acting extremely inconsiderately lately, and it’s been bumming me out. However, earlier this week, she contacted me via e-mail to see if I’d be in town this weekend to spend some time together. I was very glad and anxious to see her, and called her the next day to say that I’d make a special trip down to see her if she’d just let me know when she would be free…and then I didn’t hear back from her. For five days. So I broke down and sent her a text, and she replied saying she’d been “very busy” and forgot to get back to me.
Now, I was a little irked. She has done this a lot recently, but I actually do value our friendship and want to see her…So I went ahead and told her I would be in town Saturday, and we agreed to meet up.
It took me 2 buses and a LOT of time, but I made it to town…I didn’t hear from her all day. I called, and she told me she was busy with dinner and would call back in 10 minutes. Nearly an hour went by before she called, and by that time, I had given up on the evening and didn’t take her call.
I am quite angry with her because I feel her behavior has been very disrespectful lately (it’s all the more painful because she never used to act this way), and I want to know why she is acting this way.
But I’m hesitant to do anything that might cause conflict, because I really do appreciate our friendship…it would be such a shame to let seven years of friendship disintegrate. It hurts to question what used to be the strongest friendship I had. I’m very sad, and I just don’t know what to do.

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Verum%20Causa offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

eat it

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ac19 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

your best option would be tell her how you are feeling about the friendship lately; if she is a true friend she will take the steps to show you she cares about you and the friendship

If she completely blows you off; then apparently she has more important things to do and is not a real friend anymore….

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 hours, 25 minutes after post)

Maybe she’s angry at you about something, as ac19 said you should tell her how you feel because then you can find out why she’s behaving like that. Or she could be trying to hide something from you, and be feeling guilty.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

Confrunt her but don’t do it in an acusing way. For example start off by asking if you have up set her lately because you feel she has been acting diferrently and that you really appreciate the friendship and don’t want to fall out cause you look forward to hanging out and chatting together.

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