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sounds like you are pretty good at contoling your life, you have over came so much on your own….what are your problems? You past is over what new problems do you have?

Nice post, made a lot of sense to me.

A normal friend doesn’t have the skills and emotional reserve and distance to sick with you in working through really big long term stuff. My opinion is that they can care about you, and help you in bits a pieces, but replying on them as your rock through really hard times doesn’t work out so well.

I hear you about church parents, been there, its tough.

I gota say, you sound pretty strong and wise for your years. You know what you want. You want to work through and resolve your problems. I see this a big win. First, you aren’t in denial of them, and your taking responsibility in fixing them. Sure they might have been caused by someone else, but its your life and you want to be free from it.

Advice? What country you in? People here might be able to hook up with good professional help in your state.

And keep posting what’s bugging you. No one person will be able to be everything, but there are enough good people around on help.com to always have some to listen to where your at and offer comfort and advice.

Make an account if you want.

You are making sense, keep it up :-)

Start a post of you want saying something like “drinking support in california”

Can’t count on friends to get you though it. ( others may disagree, buts it seems to fit with what your saying)

Your family wont help at all? You said you trying talking to them, how clear did you make it that you’d like their help?

Share the problem, and people might be able to answer how they deal with it. It might be useful to separate dealing with stress and your other challanges. If you face somethings hard, your mind gets stressed. If it doesn’t know how to deal with the stress, it runs away into something. Does AA work in your area?

I’m just a little person, dealing with my own stuff, but if I can help, let me know.

Megan, what do you do for a living? Don’t talk to your parents about these, they had their share when you were in trouble and they blew it. I am very surprised and disappointed to hear that a church pastor and a teacher were not able to or didn’t want to help their own child. I don’t believe they haven’t seen you in trouble. Find counseling service, find good friends at work/school, there are tons of support available. You don’t have to be alone, unfortunately you had done that very bravely.

I’d see a doctor and get help.