relationship help: please help i am in an abusive relationship and i can’t - Help.com

Thats a tough spot to be in. When you say abusive, are you talking violent? Why can’t you get out?

POst a reply and let us know whats up.

You can always get out unless you’re being held captive. If you’re being held captive, don’t respond to this, email the police with your location. If you’re not being held captive, you can get out. It might not be easy but you can do it.

you are the “enabler” - look it up if you want.

Get them hooked up with a prof. if you want and then look after your self.

Looking back in two years, what do you wish you’d done?

You can’t get involved with a drug addict either who is physical. What kind of a lawyer are you going to be? Practise proper law with him and call the police. You actually will do a favour for him and for his parents by doing this.

Marianna, listen to me. YOu are going to be a lawyer. Your path has to be clean. YOu need to practise law with these people and leave your sentiment out. This could be one of your “field work” so to speak. You will help these people by dealing with the law. You don’t need this boyfriend. When you are going to be a licensed lawyer, you could lose your license over issues like this. You need to be firm and do what you have to do.

mariannab812 wrote:
Every time I mention help they threaten to call the police. I am studying to be a lawyer and can’t get involved with police drama

Huh? they are abusive drug users and they threaten the police? WTF?

?????? I don’t get it either.

mariannab812 wrote:
I am afraid that they will get arrested since they use with him

Maybe getting arrested would be good for them? Thats not being harsh, but really, if they are spiralling down, taking their son and you with them, it might be best for them to have to face the law, might get them to grow up. I don’t know your country, but its not your path or responsibility.

Indeed. You have to get out of this mess. Don’t feel guilty about it.

Marianna, its very simple…you are holding yourself responisible for the choices that they are making. you are not your bf mother and you are not the caregiver for his parents. I am mostly concerned about your safety. you sound ike you are on the right path with your career but the rest of you life is falling apart. Leave him and his parents. they are no good to you and you need to stay clear of their path. sooner or later someone will report them and when that happens you dont want to get mixed up in the shinanigan and have everything that you worked so hard for go for nothing. Secondly if you are really worried about them and their drug use you should know that addicts can only afford their addiction mentally, physically and even money wise because they have people like you areound them. Its a well known fact that if addicts had no one to turn to they would not be addicts anymore. They cat survive without their enablers (YOU). I know it sounds harsh but you owe to yourself to leave. and I hope that you will have the will power and the courage to do so. The guilt, pain and sadness will get worse before it gets better but eventually you will be able to look back and c that you made the right decision. Good luck and God Bless