friends help: So I have a really close friend and I am really close to his girl friend as well. - Help.com

She seems like a friend to you and it’s a good thing that you care for your friend. But if you mean that you want to go out with her and become her new boyfriend, that’s where the trouble starts. It’s usually a bad thing to go out with a friend’s ex and if you do, then it will cause tention between you and your close friend, maybe even cause you two to hate each other and split.

Yeh man it’s good that you found someone but I can guarantee that you can kiss you friendship with your mate goodbye cuz he isn’t going to forgive you. Just stating the truth.

hmmm, I’d say there are two issues to deal with. As he is your best friend, you should be there to help him out in situations like this, as in telling him about the mental stress he’s putting onto her. Friends are there to tell you the truth, even if it’s not something you want to hear.
Secondly, now you have to deal with him or her. Because she’s having trouble with her current bf, that may make her feelings sway towards someone who’s treating her better at the time. Right now, I’d say you need to hold the feelings back, or risk losing your best friend. You shouldn’t get involved in the situation right now, because your solution for her could be unconsciously biased. If things don’t pan out, then you should tell your best friend your feelings for this girl, and see what he says. You may lose your best friend afterwards, but at least you were straight up with him, nothing shady.

I dont know I just have a hard time even wanting to say anything to him anymore because the is just this overwhelming feeling of he doesnt deserve her and I…. I dont know

I see what you’re saying, but if he’s your best friend, you owe him that. You don’t have to convince him, but at least tell him. If it helps, it helps, if not, you acted in his best interests. From there on out, your conscience is clear….

but what if I know telling him will end up hurting her more?