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I met a girl after breaking with my previous gf only to find out that she didn’t really want to break up with me.

Now this girl I’m with is not as open or talkative as my previous gf and I still have feelings for my ex. But it’s not like a don’t like the girl that i’m with, she’s pretty and nice and kinda fun sometimes… I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I don’t want to hurt my ex either and I don’t know what to do. Stay with this girl or go back to my ex? This girl comes from an upper class family and is really outdoors-ish like me, unlike my ex though. My ex comes from a lower class family and her life is practically opposite to mine but our personalities match. I’m so confused, I’m a nice guy that really doesn’t want to hurt anyone. What would you do?

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

why don you just be alone for a while?
sounds like you compare two girls with some reasons.
and it’s not like “you want to make her happy”. more like “what they give you”.
gf/bf isn’t there to full fill your life.
they are there coz YOU want to make THEM happy.

think about it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Decide which one YOU want to be with. Being with the new girl may open a new opprotunity for you and meet someone you know you will stay with for awhile.

However, if you really like your ex and if she likes you, it could be possible to mend old wounds and get back together, although it will be difficult especially in the beginning.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Wow, I’m in the exact same situation. The girl I’m seeing now is from a wealthy family and likes the outdoors and we have much more in common, and my ex is from a lower class family, but we get along much better. Our personalities are definitely in sinc. She just wanted a different path in life. I know she’ll wait for me to figure things out, but I really like the girl i’m hanging out with now. But I still have very strong feelings for my ex. It was very hard to split up with my ex and I still have very strong feelings for her. I ran into her at a party the other night and we just talked all night. Then we had breakfast the next day. I’ve been completely honest with both girls and neither of them seem to have an intrest in me making up my mind. It’s a rough situation and I’m not sure what to do either. I’m at a crossroad in my life and it would be beneficial maybe to have someone else’s perspective on the situation.

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1 year ago (14 hours, 3 minutes after post)

do what your heart feels … even if you may hurt someone in the process . you cant ever win for losing. if you love that gurl then go to her … i understand you dont wanna hurt that gurl but u know that its not ment to be so just do what you feel you want in your life

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