Love help: Shouldnt a woman feel supported in a relationship. - Help.com

guys need to sleep at nights. we , girls, can wonder whole nights.
we are just two different species.

some guys think it’s a support if they are supporting financially or physically.
u just need to tell him what you want.
but you also have to step back from where you are now.
you cant always get what you want. give and take, i guess.

First thing, tell him you need food. That’s not cool.

As for the support your talking about…from a guys perspective both sides sound typical to me. I’m sorry for your situation though. I agree 100% that if we as men could be gentlemen we would all be better off. But I dont think we live in that world anymore. Its a rough world and nice guys finish last with women these days. This only changes when the women turn around 30. If your a guy it’s scary how easy this is to see. This is just my opinion but he is being an *** and not a gentleman because that gentleman you are speaking of cant exist today. You probably wouldn’t have liked him as much in the first place if he was a really nice guy and overly gentleman-like. Most women don’t seem to like that anymore…until times are tough and the real qualities of a man are needed(the protection and support your talking about)

MOST guys want nothing more than to take care of their lady in every way possible. It makes us feel manly to be there for you in ANY way we can. BUT ALL GUYS know that if your too nice, or supportive, or caring, or generous you lose the girl. Doesn’t matter which good quality you over-do it with, it will work as a repelent for your woman before long. If your a jerk 50% of the time, you get to keep th girl. I promise I’m not trying to be cruel or rude, and every guy knows this whether he’ll admit it, or be capable of it or not.

So bottom line tell him you are in NEED of his help and protection right now and that you are scared. If he hears that you are scared and still does nothing then Id say he needs to man up and take care of business. Tell him how you feel and SHOW him that you are ok with him being a nice guy. I’m telling ya, we men fail in life if we’re too nice, so some of us need you to tell us that you HAVE to be the exception. Good Luck.

Anonymous wrote:
guys need to sleep at nights. we , girls, can wonder whole nights.
we are just two different species.

some guys think it’s a support if they are supporting financially or physically.
u just need to tell him what you want.
but you also have to step back from where you are now.
you cant always get what you want. give and take, i guess.

see the thing is i have talked to him over and over and he just doesn’t say anything because he says i dont know what to say
and then thats it….he never mentions it again…so then the process starts all over again…..thats why i dont know what to do anymore

There’s an old saying Guys need s** to feel love , females need love to have s**. If he is insensitive to your emotional needs, then he needs to go without for a bit and see how it feel not to have his needs met. True, females run on more emotion then a male, however, if the two of you are to get anywhere that will last, both must give and take. Seems he is doing all the taking and not fulfilling your emotional needs. I would have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him exactly how you feel neglected when it comes to your emotional needs being met. He needs to put forth the effort if this is going to last, otherwise, I’m afraid he is showing you he just doesn’t care enough to put forth the effort. We teach others how to treat us. If you just continue to let him slide on this things will always remain the same. You can be the only judge on what your willing to sacrifice in this relationship. Money is the least of it. I truly hope he see’s the light for your sake, if not, you have to move on and find that someone, who won’t need told what to do. He’ll do it automatically because he will be sensitive to your every need. He’s out there. You just have to find him, or vice virsa. Good Luck to you :)

Really i think he is one big giant ***, but being a guy i know we are one sentence specialist and short of the roof falling in on us while we sleep we really don’t want to deal with emotional jazz. But that aside your expectations are too high. I know that you do have your moments of happiness but if the unhappiness exceeds the moments of joy and he wants to be a swine make a plan and bale, there is no future there. does he work and is he a good provider?, has he got family that visit often and is he abusive, because if he is he know the answer to your problem. With all relationships it comes down to value - how we see the value our opposites provides to our lives. He could be providing the sustainance, shelter and protection you need and you in turn provide him with companionship, free domestic services and thats that. you definately are going to have to be assertive with him if you want to survive this relationship, if he can’t explain his actions send him to the couch till he can explain why he is such an a-hole stand up for yourself and eat his food, let him go hungry. (failing which throw a bucket of cold water on him when he’s sleeping and run like hell) it won’t help much but i’ll feel better and so will you good luck friend

Don’t be such a wimp. hardly anyone gets an emmotional support, as rare as the indonesian orange biped.

Its hard to find someone to be there fully…thats why it is important to be there for yourself….if you don’t feel secure then don’t settle…you shouldn’t be in a relationship that doesn’t fully give you what you need….you will be ok…we are strong (women) and you can do this by yourself if you decide to leave…I hope you feel better and find what you are looking for :)

Personally, I think it’s apart of the relationship for both people to be able to comfort and support each other in time of need.

I agree with Neutra :)

I mean the woman should feel supported but so often that is not the case in my arrogant opinion.

Yes… we all need ’support’; what D. Richo would call the five A’s.

http://help.com/post/118680-the-five-…

Attention and affection go a very long way in any relationship. However we must be reasonable. We cannot wake someone in the middle of the night and expect them to jump to our aid, mindful and cognitive of our needs - that’s just not realistic. However if he’s going to bed and right away rolling over and falling to sleep then that’s wrong (unless he’s totally exhausted for some reason or is sick).