question help: Is being here a waste of time? - Help.com

Nope. It’s not a waste of time.

no i dont think so it may help u in ur problems…

I spend to much time on here, but I like it so, not a waste

either way you like it or not .I love it here and i think i can help some one.But that could be just my imagination…

I guess it depends on who you ask… I am almost addicted to this place. But who’s to say that is a bad thing or not. Some have found it helpful. Others have found their soul mate. I’m forever hopeful…. =8^}

well jerry even the slightest suggestion may help that Person.You dont know if you realy helped but that is the way i think it works..

Jerry wrote:

Barbyman wrote:
either way you like it or not .I love it here and i think i can help some one.But that could be just my imagination…

That’s what I think. I like to think that I am helping people, but not even I would want my help. It seems foolish to think that I am experienced enough to help these people. And I don’t have problems I need help with, at least not ones that I express on this website.

don’t dismiss yourself for not being experienced with problems. it’s not always essential to be experienced with a problem to offer advise. if you have a common understanding and feel like your advice is important then you are not wasting time. everyone is here for a reason and can be classified as being unique when it comes to lifting a spirit or giving genuine advice.

When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

better ( and cheaper ) than WOW, which was my other choice for addiction for these three months.

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

hahahhaahahhaa, if you call helping humanity with solid and timly advice a waste, then yes it is.

U can’t waste time….

I came here 4 or 5 months ago in a total mental spinout. Really I was done. typed “help” into the search line… “god”(AKA the laws/ways of the universe) not only got me right here, but I saw the BRILLIANT AMUSING totally delicious writings of a member who is smarter and funnier than should be legal. It soothed my turmoil by occupying my thoughts. and slowly (albeit awkwardly) I crawled out of the black hole.

As my profile line says, I like to hide in the crowd. So I am back to that.

Oh and thankyou Help.com… oh yeah, and “God” that got me here.. oh oh and smart person for giving so much of yourself.

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

Do they still visit Help I havn’t heard from CM since i came back

Sometimes I’ll see C.M. logged on but he doesn’t say much. Just wants to pop in and check on things. Like a proud grandpa checking on his sleeping grandchildren.

Thanks to you too Mas. You make this place special and safe for all of us.

The only time that is wasted,is time not growing in mind and spirit. Helping others
and at the same time helping yourself is not a waste of time.

nothing is a waste of time but coming here instead of going somewhere and doing some stuff aint that good… you have to try to balance the real world with help.com

tricky wrote:
nothing is a waste of time but coming here instead of going somewhere and doing some stuff aint that good… you have to try to balance the real world with help.com

There’s a REAL world?? No. Really?? Wait. I can’t take that. Somebody stop me. I can’t go out there. Noooooooo……..

southern_comfort wrote:

tricky wrote:
nothing is a waste of time but coming here instead of going somewhere and doing some stuff aint that good… you have to try to balance the real world with help.com

There’s a REAL world?? No. Really?? Wait. I can’t take that. Somebody stop me. I can’t go out there. Noooooooo……..

should i be laughing O_o

you know that ppl get sometimes too involved into the internet and stuff that they leave behind the real word and just want to go home and sit alone with there pc , that cant be that good once they really get tiered somehow from the web and look and wana go to the real world but they have missed so much… or you just are an idiot making idiotic comment ?

Jerry wrote:
don’t read into it too much tricky. But I do think about the things that are going on here when I’m out doing things. Its kind of the uni holidays at the moment so I am spending alot of time on here when I should be finishing assignments. But I guess from time to time I’ve been able to throw some advice to someone amidst the elaborate replies.

if you are managing ur real life with help.com than you i think you dont have any problem , but once it starts to affect your real life , i think you need to do some thinking

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

Do they still visit Help I havn’t heard from CM since i came back

Sometimes I’ll see C.M. logged on but he doesn’t say much. Just wants to pop in and check on things. Like a proud grandpa checking on his sleeping grandchildren.

Thanks to you too Mas. You make this place special and safe for all of us.

tricky wrote:

Jerry wrote:
don’t read into it too much tricky. But I do think about the things that are going on here when I’m out doing things. Its kind of the uni holidays at the moment so I am spending alot of time on here when I should be finishing assignments. But I guess from time to time I’ve been able to throw some advice to someone amidst the elaborate replies.

if you are managing ur real life with help.com than you i think you dont have any problem , but once it starts to affect your real life , i think you need to do some thinking

Some people DO manage their real lives on here. I know of 3 people that are ALIVE because of the help given by others they each received on here.

And all 3 laugh at my attempts of humor; something you could learn from them I suppose.

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

Do they still visit Help I havn’t heard from CM since i came back

Sometimes I’ll see C.M. logged on but he doesn’t say much. Just wants to pop in and check on things. Like a proud grandpa checking on his sleeping grandchildren.Thanks to you too Mas. You make this place special and safe for all of us.

He was the 1st person to help me on my 1st ever post and I still remember that :) you could be making that kind of impact on people Jerry and wow you give some amazing advice

Thanks Cakes. I really appreciate that. =8^}

southern_comfort wrote:

tricky wrote:

Jerry wrote:
don’t read into it too much tricky. But I do think about the things that are going on here when I’m out doing things. Its kind of the uni holidays at the moment so I am spending alot of time on here when I should be finishing assignments. But I guess from time to time I’ve been able to throw some advice to someone amidst the elaborate replies.

if you are managing ur real life with help.com than you i think you dont have any problem , but once it starts to affect your real life , i think you need to do some thinking

Some people DO manage their real lives on here. I know of 3 people that are ALIVE because of the help given by others they each received on here. And all 3 laugh at my attempts of humor; something you could learn from them I suppose.

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:

southern_comfort wrote:

Cakes;-) wrote:
When my life was a trainwreak people on this site really helped me through it, I left Help.com for about a year and now I am back on track and I come here everyday hoping to support people the way I was supported, sometimes that helps just as much as the advise people give, just give your opinions and let people know how you would deal with the situations and let them know you are here to talk if they need it

This is proof that Help.ocm works the way the original starters of this site intended it to do. Big shout of Thanks to C.M. and Jeff.

Do they still visit Help I havn’t heard from CM since i came back

Sometimes I’ll see C.M. logged on but he doesn’t say much. Just wants to pop in and check on things. Like a proud grandpa checking on his sleeping grandchildren.Thanks to you too Mas. You make this place special and safe for all of us.

He was the 1st person to help me on my 1st ever post and I still remember that :) you could be making that kind of impact on people Jerry and wow you give some amazing advice

Thanks Cakes. I really appreciate that. =8^}

there are times to laugh and times to be serious

Jerry I have seen you helping people and it’s not a waste of time. Some people need the jokes to lift their spirits I’m sure you know when to joke and when a joke would be completly inappropriate

Alot of people who use help (myself included) found the site by googling “help” when they were at the end of their rope and about to fall. When someone is at this stage in their life, anything that brings them comfort is worth every ounce of effort put into it.
Southern Comfort, it’s ok. I know the real world is a scary, scary place, but we have to be strong! *opens door, puts one toe out, screams and shuts the door* Forget bravery. Save yourself any way you know how.

well, for me, at least, the very concept of time-wasting is pretty much subjective, isn’t it? like, what else would i rather do at work? actually working?!

I do think a lot of people do know when they are out of their depth and know when to suggest professional help, I only help if I think I can, people are also happy to take that advice, this place helped me heaps and I couldn’t be happier right now, I also know I can ask for help if I need it again

I’d like to think I may be able to help others, but mostly I just try to save myself.

Definitely not a waste of time for me.. you really helped me alot just by talking to me..so i am very grateful for your existence here on this website.

I don’t think being on here is a waste of time. But balance is important so if you’re spending all your time on here its maybr not the best thing.

Hey…… All I have to say is that your reply to one of my posts gave me hope. And I can’t even begin to thank you enough for taking the time to reply to me with your words of encouragement.

David

Don’t gooooooo.
*tries to drag back*
I liked what you write in my post.
Stay? x x x

If you are doing something you enjoy, it’s never a waste.

Jerry, others certainly value your help here, but your friends want you to have a healthy life. This website provides a way to do volunteer work, without the expense and trouble of living home. I think it is healthy to give a little and live a lot. If you are spending too much time here, maybe you need help in order to strike a balance.
Addiction is a strong word, but if you feel addicted, you need to pay attention to your inner voice. Now, breathe!

no this is not wastage of time…as it helps many people..who r in gr8 need of help…you are getting wishes from them.you are doing gr8 work..so be dere…nd help people..

i hav no rl, this site is my social life, as creepy as that sounds it is dangerous too because the moment someone here doesn’t seem to quite like me and i happen to have a problem with it (which i need to work on atm), i’m out of social life.

Actually to start with no one join this web site to help other…. anyone who seek for her come her….. but after joining it you feel like helping others…
and you know what helping other make you forget you own pains and agony.. may be for sometime….

some times because help others i forgotten n hurt myself but i wont cry as long i see smiling face of person i help.

Well I am glad you are on here…I am new, and I already like some of your comments! :)

do you guys over there have a lot of spare time in australia cause we dont

I think it is a waste of time.. I havent met one person who listens to advice.. It is just an addiction, one which that we must all wean ourselves from, to start living again.. Typing for endless hours is most certainly a waste of time.. Time is too precious to be wasting..

Im not wasting my time here on help.Help in People gives me inspirations. wrote 6 Songs in six month and all from People with words of healing and problems in there Lifes.Some will not be helped,but if its only one you can help….

it depends how much you get out of it. whether you learn alot from it. if you feel like you are learning when you help other peole and read other people’s opinions and new approaches to different problems. if you dont learn anything or get any enjoymeny from being here then i would say yes. otherwise no.

I dont think visiting this place has been a waste of time. There are people to talk to and to help with problems. i’ve met afew very nice people here that Im glad you know.

Its not a waste if u are learning, living your life as you wish!

its not a waste. you are helping others and being helped yourself. ths site is for people that need support and dont have it, and the more people that are on here the better.

Everything in moderation. This website, like so many other things, is best taken in moderate quantity.

wow. its certainly not a waste. I’ve had my first post up for about half an hour and i’m amazed at how quickly and helpfully people replied. Just that fact has cheered me up immensely. So if you enjoy being on here then carry on, but as the person before me said, everything in moderation… dont sit on it all the time.

well for the 20 minutes that ive been on this website i dont think its a waste of ur time being here cause u already made me laugh after i was feeling like crap

Jerry wrote:

Barbyman wrote:
either way you like it or not .I love it here and i think i can help some one.But that could be just my imagination…

That’s what I think. I like to think that I am helping people, but not even I would want my help. It seems foolish to think that I am experienced enough to help these people. And I don’t have problems I need help with, at least not ones that I express on this website.

suggestion is a powerful tool. and the key to remember is longevity you may post something that may or may not help the immediate seeker of asistance, but what if someone else who is having trouble stumbles upon that very post and it inspires them? whos to say what would have happened if that post had not been there at that exact time? think the butterfly effect, and youd be kind of close. we may never know what outcomes our actions lead to, but other people do, and at times they are truely greatful.

Jerry wrote:

Barbyman wrote:
either way you like it or not .I love it here and i think i can help some one.But that could be just my imagination…

That’s what I think. I like to think that I am helping people, but not even I would want my help. It seems foolish to think that I am experienced enough to help these people. And I don’t have problems I need help with, at least not ones that I express on this website.

You’ve given some really good advice and details on the topic I just followed the link from (about the guy considering selling some stock video footage). So I think there are people who value what you are able to contribute.

As for being a waste of time: Yes… and no.
It is addictive and can be time consuming, but it can also be productive and helpfull either to yourself or to others. I try to simply balance my time and remind myself that it is ok to close my browser and check back sometime later.

If the site isnt helping you understand what you don’t get, then it’s a waste. If it’s helping you, it isn’t a waste.

Everything in moderation, and you’ll be fine.

Cell wrote:
Maybe it IS a waste of time…

Why do you think so?

Cell wrote:
If you spend all your time here you won’t get anything done out there…in the real world.

And, in my case, that is probably a good thing. lol The real world can’t handle the way I get things done.

The real world has its own fair share of time-wasters too. The way I see it, as long as you’re doing the things you enjoy, you’re not wasting your time.