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Ugh, my boyfriend is being mean…

My boyfriend and my sister are I think, two of the most important people in my life.

We were having chinese with my boyfriend, sister and her boyfriend. We were all talking, and suddenly the topic of careers came up. I’m studying to become a teacher, and sadly, in the country I live in, being a teacher doesn’t have such social status a say, being a lawyer. I was making a point of how this upsets me especially since Law students make fun of us aspiring teachers.

Then I shifted the topic at how I dislike this, since my father was always talking about how Law is practically the greates career of all (he’s an engineer by the way). And he never gives any credit to teachers and that makes me feel a bit sad.

Then my sister started talking/arguing with me about this. And now my boyfriend is complaining that it was inappropriate and childish, that I’m too self centered, that no one wants to hear my sad story (that it’s pathetic), and that it seems I never realiza what’s appropriate and what’s not, since I almost started crying. Well, I felt like I was in an environment of trust, but apparently I wasn’t? This hurts even more and he just won’t take my apologies…

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

I mean, sure, I can understand if it was a bit inapproproate, but that much?

Also, forgot to mention, we were home, so it’s not like I made a scene in public.

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Yuniko offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

It is really hard when someone is fighting for his dreams and no one helps or give some support. Don’t be down because of that, you’re being individual and trying to fulfill your dreams, and that is a good thing! Money and social status isn’t everything. Neither one can buy happiness (even if they can help). Why would someone pursuit a carreer unwanted, and then feel like cr*p everyday at work?

Chin up, and don’t let themself throw you down. Sometimes people don’t even measure their own words.

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MusicFreakMaria offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Midlothian, VA, US | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

i want to be a teacher to but i wouldnt let them get me down. if it makes you happy then do it who cares about status?! that just shows that some people are just not worthy of someone who is chasing their dreams! id just ignore them and do what i want to!!

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

And now he’s telling me this is why he never liked younger girls… he thinks I’m too immature. I’m the first girl he dates who’s younger than him. He tells me I’m childish and I make scenes out of everythingh and making hills out of molehills…

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Yuniko offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Then if he thinks all of that about you, why is he dating you?

Ever thought on asking him that directly?

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

he broke up with me just now….

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MusicFreakMaria offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Midlothian, VA, US | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

he doesnt deserve you then!!!! youre better than that!!! if anyone is being immature its him!!!

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Yuniko offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

Totally agree! You deserve someone that loves you for who you are, and I bet you are an excellent person!

He is the immature one, you deserve more than that.

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Coalesce offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

A lawyer is an actor. They play the voice of the accuser and the voice of the accused. They proceed in a ritual dance within the bounds and confines of the law. It is a creative, demanding, and noble profession.

The teacher on the other hand… the teacher sacrifices the self to build the student. It is the earnest hope of the teacher that the student will exceed them.

The lawyer seeks to win, to accomplish, to gain. The teacher seeks to be usurped by the strength of the student, to glow softly in the brilliance of the disciple, and to lose ground in the face of the achievements of those that are trained.

What is a prophet or apostle but a teacher? What is a philosopher, what is an artist but a teacher? Teach faith, or perspective, or knowledge… teach anything and you give to your students that which they could not gain of themselves.

Renown is due the powerful… but honor is due those that sacrifice themselves to build others.

I can’t think of a profession more noble than that of the teacher.

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