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Friends can be like that, give it some time, or do something to get back to the golden light in their eyes… Ive done it dozens of times :Þ

High school sucks

Such is the nature of life–especially in high school. I only talk to one friend from high school. He is my only childhood friend I have left. People find new interests (you will find you will too) so they make new friends. I lost a couple to drugs. Some others just because they fell in with a different crowd. People come and go out of our lives, but it doesn’t mean our memories with them are any different. They were your friend for a reason. You were given a chance to get to know them. And nothing can take away your past. Now you have a new future. And that is reasonably scary. The unknown can be. But it brings potential too.

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

Or you could be chickens.

poor cluless chickens…

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

Or you could be chickens.

poor cluless chickens…

You are so nice…

I think you are discovering the difference between true friendship and mere acquaintances the hard way here. If people are pulling away from you because of what is going on in your life, regardless of how much it is changing you, they are not true friends. Friends stick by you no matter what.

Or they may be finding it hard how to handle the situation. They don’t know how to react to your problems. They are lost and scared themselves, and not really sure what to do. Unfortunately, people shy away from what they don’t understand, rather than persevere to try and make things right. Have you talked to them about these changes, especially Nicole?

tears_of_rain wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

Or you could be chickens.poor cluless chickens…

hahaokay, now that we had our daily laugh, shall we get back somewhat towards Hannah’s subject?

I sat yes

you have to understand.. you all are growing… and as much as you hate to see it… you all are learning new things in life… learning different things and enjoying many things that you may not be into….. thats the thing about still growing… you start to grow apart from your old friends to make new ones who share the same things in life that you are..

Porphyria wrote:
lol… I’m not enjoying anything.

Not even our lovely, shining…avatars? :p

Porphyria wrote:

ǝıɥs_ʇıq_lıl wrote:
you have to understand.. you all are growing… and as much as you hate to see it… you all are learning new things in life… learning different things and enjoying many things that you may not be into….. thats the thing about still growing… you start to grow apart from your old friends to make new ones who share the same things in life that you are..

lol… I’m not enjoying anything.

i know….. but its the way of life.. its what happens… and although it seems so very hard at this second… things will get easier..

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

tears_of_rain wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

Or you could be chickens.poor cluless chickens…

hahaokay, now that we had our daily laugh, shall we get back somewhat towards Hannah’s subject?

I sat yes

I *say yes as well.

I dont mean to offend but…

Have you ever thought you could be diffrent?

I’m sure your firends still care very much for you.As people grow, they go through changes. Your friends are dealing with their own issues, but that doesn’t take anything away from you. Your a good person. Always looking out for everyone. Maybe your just seeing more into things then they actually are. By the way, Don’t be jealous of anyone. That takes away from your dignity. She may end up being one of your dearest friends. Sometimes the prettiest ones end up being the lonelest.

Porphyria wrote:
Like I said, I KNOW I’m different. I’ve talked to Nicole and Maggie about it. I had to lie to Nicole and told her I had never thought of suicide… I couldn’t tell her something like that.

Maybe they sense somethings wronhg and feel like your not being honest.

Did she ever tell you about how she felt?

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

tears_of_rain wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:

Nante wrote:

©hicken§ :Þ wrote:
High school sucks

Aint you a middle schooler still??

You don’t know that, i could be in collage and you would have no idea… Poor Nante… so clueless :Þ

Or you could be chickens.poor cluless chickens…

hahaokay, now that we had our daily laugh, shall we get back somewhat towards Hannah’s subject?

I sat yes

I *say yes as well.

I dont mean to offend but…

Have you ever thought you could be diffrent?

I meant to say sat… it makes perfect sense…

What do you mean different!?

I have to get going but you should really try to get her to open up more,sounds like she’s hiding something to me, Good luck.

I’ll tell you this - you’re going to have a LOT of fun in college.
High school **** *** ***! I swear, life will improve if you get the grades and do extracurricular activities. Once you get into college, life gets better.

Nante wrote:

Porphyria wrote:
Like I said, I KNOW I’m different. I’ve talked to Nicole and Maggie about it. I had to lie to Nicole and told her I had never thought of suicide… I couldn’t tell her something like that.

Maybe they sense somethings wronhg and feel like your not being honest.

I’d say this is very much a possibility.

Just go with this change. You can’t fight against it. When things do change, keep talking about it with them. If they care as much as you do they will help you to work things out. Don’t leave yourself in the dark as to why things are changing. Work it out if you want to keep these relationships. Otherwise walk away, let it be, and find something or someone else.

If she is not talking to you, then something is quite definitely wrong. Keep at it. Tell her she needs to be open with you. Otherwise the relationship just does not work.

And you cannot be the only one to work on the relationships. It is a 2-way thing.

Yes, I’ve been there too. But you will make new friends. You will see. It’ll take time, but you will see. But what of yourself? Sometimes you can be your own best friend :) And what of your family? Your friends here on help? Never say never. So long as you let people into your life, you will always have someone.

Nite Hannah, take care!

sounds like a soap opera. maybe u should write a paperback, kind of like twilight?

Well, basically, the way I see it, high school is the time when you discover who your true friends are. The people who you thought you were close to may change drastically when you get there. This is from personal experience, people change when they get to be around more different people.

Well, I think high school is just a step in life and the friends you make may stay or you may grow out or away from some of them. Getting out and getting involved will help you make new relationships and grow. Being tired down to the same old, same old is a rut.
Share your time and always leave room for new adventures.

Learning to walk away from drama and not tying yourself down or putting yourself in a box until it’s time…is where it’s at:) First impressions set the stage, when you walk in a room of strangers with confidence, they all want to know you and what you can do. Let them earn that.

Good for you, for figuring it out! :)

Porphyria wrote:
I think I’ve figured it out:
Nicole is growing into her own. She is becoming more social. She is becoming what I was before. Now I have changed in a way that I am now not as social and sad. I am being left behind, that’s the problem.

You can’t have figured it out yet..you haven’t see the world.

This is what I know to be true.

I’m not a sports buff, but I can play almost anything well when I put my mind and heart into it. A couch told me during a volleyball game not to “grow roots”. Focus on the ball or the now. Block out all distractions that keep you from moving. You don’t need to be 14 going on 25….be 14. Having fun and ignore what really isn’t your deal yet. Enjoy things that are popular for your age group and they the stress to the rest…have a holiday:) It’s harmful to you and our loss if you don’t enjoy yourself.

Get out of the house and grab a friend or anybody and go out to a new adventure. Be safe of coarse. Visit art galleries, pretend you are a tourist, tour colleges, visit designer shops or even sit in on local meetings. Don’t stand still or you’ll grow roots and get a ball in the head…lol. Some friends your age here dye their hair purple..please don’t do that:) But you can tease it and have a freaky day. Have some fun and milk this sentence…”I can’t do that, I’m only 14″. Take advantage of not being responsible…it doesn’t last long and you are late for your dinner date:)

Good for you:) I enjoy this social interaction and shout me if you need too:)

An idle mind is a devils playground..keeping busy is good:)

That part sucks, but it will payoff. Crap, didn’t mean it to sound like that, but the pain now is the gain later. People that drop out early suffer more doing catch up. Homework..home business..same stuff, just different rewards. Money can disappear, educational credentials last forever. Doing is a whole lot better then thinking:) Do you do sports?

Cool..march right out..later:)