life help: Okay I have this neighbor that I think is secretly smoking pot after her family goes to bed. - Help.com

noone has responded to this because that is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard!!
get a life
if she wants to smoke pot then she can…its none of your business and you should keep your nose out of it.

its not like she’s smoking crack…for gods sake

this is really big enough for you to be asking for help?

just mind your own business.

there is nothing wrong with having a little stress relief after a long hard day…as long as she is not harming you and your family let her slide

ok i re-read that..it was sorta mean..
im sorry

all im saying is she isnt doing any harm

i have plenty of friends…with phd’s mind you
who smoke pot…
its an individual choice

^ agreed

It’s okay…I really was replying with that was kind of rude. ;)

I think I really was looking for some reasurance, because I am sure if my wife knew she would be calling the cops to have our neighbor hauled off to jail. I just think that you’re right and it’s nothing but I guess sometimes when things are illegal you just have to keep it all in perspective.

THanks for the feedback! :)

ask her if you could join in….make it a family night? get to know the neighbors better

lol…like I said the wife wouldn’t approve, maybe if it was the husband I could convince her we were watching the game! ;)

have you ever smoked anon?

well yeah I went to college in a very boring town…we used to think it helped us with our math!

it helps make the day more interesting.

lol! well
maybe not with your math! haha
ok, just asking because sometimes people judge without any knowledge of what they are talkign about…

id say just an eye out for anything worst…

and sorry again for attacking you on that first message!!

im just having a bad day

it’s okay we all have bad days, you’re understood.

not sure if interesting would be the word to describe it…but it’s been so long I can’t imagine how I would react.

ps if anyone cares I just saw her light up on her back porch, it is bout that time! :)

thanks again for all the feedback.

well if her kids arent around i guess its ok i mean its illegal and everything but shes oviously being careful and shes just hurtin herself

dont tell tho cuz then ur bein a…idk the right word…d0u he

having a bad day? smoke a dubie with his neighbor. and something i haven’t thought of before…what if she has a prescription and she doesn’t want her kids to know or something which i guess i could understand

my question is, what are you doing up after midnight watching your neighbor, thats slightly creepy

he’s kinda right ^

my computer desk sits in our kitchen which I can see right out the window straight across to their back porch…it’s hard not to notice and when the seasons change and we have our windows open I can smell it. promise not a creep, just observant.

we don’t live in a state that would allow her to smoke it with a script. seriously they will put you in jail for a stem or a sead if they find it.

wow where the hell do you live?

the great state of Indiana!

wtf i live in north west indiana and i smoke weed all day long….whoa

then i suggest you pretend you didnt see it
who cares if she is smoking a little pot
ignore it an go on with life

yeah well we are down south central and they are crazy round here, they get all hung up on the small stuff down here.

yeah I am going to ignore it…that was my first thought but over the last year they have really cracked down on that stuff and I guess I started questioning my decision. just needed a little reassurance that I was doing the right thing, ya know?

yes ignore it

I will…well thanks again, goin to crash now.

I agree with a lot of people here. Whether it’s bad or not, it’s harming anyone (except POSSIBLY her). It seems to me she is being responsible enough to keep it away from her family, so she’s not being a bad influence on anyone.

Pot is hardly a terrible drug, I’d be more worried if she was sneaking out with a bottle of whiskey than a joint.

Live and let live, I say. Forget about it. It hardly matters.

My concern would be why your neighbour feels she needs to at all? I’m not convinced that it’s recreational if she’s doing this totally alone and out in the cold and dark! She’s doing it because she needs to and therein the problem.

Setting aside the legality/illegality, have a think about what you can do to ensure that she is getting any support she may need. It’s a tricky one, because you are going to have to be subtle. But I know a few too many “perfect” families hiding behind a mask of normality when in reality things are going off the wall behind closed doors!

Be a good neighbour, offer a helping hand and there’s no harm in being a little nosey through the window to ensure that all is well, particularly where there are children involved.

now your a nosey neighbor,i hope your not living next to me,maybe you need a life ,try smoking a joint,AND tend to your own **** HOUSE,to bad they arnt perfect like you,ill bet there happy,have they ask you to pay there bills if no then GROW UP

Let it be

Mind your own business.

The fact that she smokes a little weed is none of your business.

Butt out and stop being that annoying busy body neighbor that everyone hates.

Not everyone.

But then I don’t see neighbourly concern as a negative thing.