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hmm… ok first i have to admit im not very good at this stuff(giving advice) but i would suggest rebuilding ur life and its definitely not impossible u juz really need to want it. Also its ok to drink a lil in highschool, but dont drink so much that it buries ur feelings and when u do have something on ur mind talk to someone anyone juz as long as they can be trusted which juz about anyone on here u can trust cuz we’re all here to help. Also your parents dont define u become more independent from them if they’re creating a bad influence. eventually ull be able to build back ur own self confidence and respect but it takes time and commitment juz remember that respect doesnt come from what others think of you, but what u think of yourself. I hope that made sense and if u ever need to talk im here :D

i don’t know if my advice is worth **** to you, but i’d at least like you to read it because it has merit in its own.

i’m in a similar boat mate. i go through fits of depression and i know what it’s like to be lead around by girls, and have a knife through your heart. i refuse to do drugs because i don’t care for them and hate them for what they do to people sometimes. my best friend who i consider a brother shoots up a lot. it’s all up to you. family members of mine drink… often to excess and i grew up with my parents verbally (the kind where the whole neighborhood hears) and sometimes (often on accident) physically fighting.

right now i don’t know what to do. i don’t need or want a suicide prevention blah blah blah because all i need is to clear my mind and think of what i hate. once i think of everything i hate, i let it out by myself. i always thought nobody was interested me, that girls weren’t noticing me, and because of this i shunned group gatherings. i learned to not care. i let it all out through my environments. i spoke my mind, i did silly things and i didn’t have a care in the world once i did this. i lived for making others laugh.

maybe you can find solace in what i have done. if not, you can always listen to others over me. just giving you something to ponder.

oh, and if you can try to not punch people in the face, i’ve learned the hard way that people don’t like you much after that, nor do their friends….

In my experience, I had one girlfriend in high school, and it lasted 6 months. She was a year and grade older than me, and her friends pressured her into dumping the “niner”.

This put me off relationships during the remainder of school.
I did okay afterwards, and was married for 17 years.

I have met ladies I went to school with in the past few years and some of them asked me why I never asked them out when we were in school.

So, here’s where I answer and maybe this makes sense to you…

I always felt the girls were far too judgemental. It seemed to require a supreme effort to just be social with them. I thought it was me, but once I was in my last year, and for the first couple of years after, other guys and I came to the conclusion that our girls were snobs. We all ended up seeing girls from other schools.

In the end, I didn’t worry about it, and concentrated on sports or clubs.

Thanks for the help.

There’s a little misunderstanding, probably because I didn’t give enough explanation.

I’ve never actually punched someone in the face (I’ve never been in a fight, either), but I was fiery enough to do it if they forced something on me.

About the drugs and alcohol thing: I don’t use them (as far as I know) to escape reality in terms of negative feelings. If anything, I’d be thinking even more about my problems while I’m on them. I only drink alcohol to be social (standing in a bush party by a bonfire with classmates).

I’m finding I’m slowly coping better with my depression but every day some thing just sets it off again. As for love….I’ve given up on that. If love wants me in its house it can **** well kidnap me, I’m not chasing that dog playing keep-away anymore. It’s too tiring and I’m benefiting nothing out of it time wasted.

Get World of Warcraft. 3

mehblah,
as far as getting angry juz remember that the person who’s being an @sshole isnt worth your time and there’s nothing you can do to change it so dont dwell on it juz vent by writing or talking and than forget and move on if anything it will show that you’re better than that person. also alcohol isnt that bad as long as you’re not drowning your feelings in it and drinking way too much, but if your parents are alcoholics its best to moderate your drinking as much as possible although it is proven that people who drink in highschool tend to turn out better in college because they know their limitations and they are also less likely to be alcoholics because it is not new too them. Im not promoting underage drinking, but most of us drink anyhow. the love thing u mite not be chasing it rite now which is smart cuz it juz complicates everything when it doesnt work out. also the ppl who chase love are ussually hopeless romantics and only have short relationships, but juz be urself around girls and if they like you thats great and if they dont its their loss.
anyhow i thought this was gonna be short but i dont do short very well :P
and btw i love ur sn
~Hannah