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i need a little advise, im not so good at asking for help, but i seem to have found myself at a cross road, and dont know which direction to take…

my Boyfriend and i have just moved countrys, from my home to his home, the other side of the world, when we were planning to come here, everything was arranged, we had a house, a job, visas everything, now that we have got here, everything is falling to pieces, the job is no longer there.. it was gone a week after we arrive with all the credit cruch nightmare, so that equals no money - and no job - no visa.. and with out that we cant get a house, so we are staying with some people, but we need to leave like yesterday… my options are to go back to my home, and leave my BF behind here in his home… ( at least he can try and find a different job here) but then we wont be together, but at least i can work and get money. or stay here, completely unmotivated, Pennyless and in major depression, and try and get thru it. i cant get a job as i dont have papers to work here, so what do i do if i stay?!

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thepartyguestlis offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

Thanks!! pfft! moving back would be so hard.. we’ve been together for 6yrs and were happy together!!

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Move back and get a job. That will allow you funds to visit each other. Don’t worry, long-distance love can survive (trust me.. I know!)

Staying will only add to your difficulties and the stress will put a strain on your relationship.

Consider this a temporary set-back and nothing more. It will work out!

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cleverly_disguised_a offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 hours, 28 minutes after post)

My advice? Stay. This is someone you’ve been with for six years and obviously love enough to move to another country for! In my experience, financial situations work themselves out so long as you are actually putting forth the effort. But love….that’s something that some people go their entire lives without ever truely finding. Love > money any day.

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ladyann4u offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

I think you should go back home and get a job so that you can get everything together again. What is going to be will be. Long distant love is good. I can talk from experience. I also know how love can suffer in hard times because of the immediate needs that need to be met and your not always at your best in representing your thoughts and your self worth. Go home to make some money. Then get back together at some point perhaps in marrage.

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