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I met this guy online and he’s so sweet i really like him, and he likes me because he’s got some friends of mine on his msn. Thing is, i don’t know what to do.. he was asking one of my friends if i’m interested.. but i mean.. do long distance relationships ever really work? please help :(

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (2 minutes after post)

yes they can work, but you just got to work them differently and manage your expectations.

How far away is he, and what kind of age are you guys

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

he’s 18 and i’m gna be 17 in feb..
well.. i live in malta.. it’s like.. under italy if you didn’t kno lol
and he lives in ireland.

xeno dragon, we were thinking about meeting.. but not like.. one of us moving
or anything, just meeting like he comes here for a week or so then i go there idk
:/

i really like him though :(

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

If yuor clear about what “works” means to you both.

If you are not getting phyical, then your missing a huge part of the bond in relationships.

What do you want from it? Do you think you will get it? and same for him.

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

i don’t know what you mean by that..
umm i don’t know.. i just know that
i’ve never felt about anyone like this
ever.. i never usually say that so :/
and he always tells me he loves me..
and he’s not one to lie about these things

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tristessetoujours offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

long distance relationships do work, but only if there is complete trust and faith on both sides. do you trust him completely? and do you have a basis for that trust?

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (15 minutes after post)

yeah i do trust him completely i really do
he’s got an amazing character..
we clicked immediately

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tristessetoujours offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

then its fine. in fact, thats great. my best friend lives miles away from me, and we see eachother around twice a year, but we still keep in touch perfectly well. don’t worry about it, your relationship won’t be affected by the distance.

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

cool. so what do you want? and whats stopping you?

If you want something, go after it. simple

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

well.. i want to go out with him..
but i’m scared about the distance
thing..
but yeah tristessetoujours you’ve got
a point. thank you both so much for
your help

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (20 minutes after post)

whats scaring you.

I agree with trist that it can work, but distance does affect things, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, just got to work with it.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

yeah.. other people told me that it’d be better if it were long distance coz
you don’t get used to the face, which would make it more exciting.

i don’t know what’s scaring me.. i’m just kind of clueless when it comes to these things

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (24 minutes after post)

so if you had a clue, you’d not be so scared? LOL

Step through it a bit if you want. What do you feel clueless about? Asking him out, or how to maintian that trust/love long distance?

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

LOL i guess xD

yeah i’ve never been faced with this situation before
i don’t know haha

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

new situations are fun!

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (26 minutes after post)

yeah LOL they are

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (33 minutes after post)

so its all good. what next?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (41 minutes after post)

we’re gonna meet in 2 weeks time see how things go from there :)

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chunkymove offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (44 minutes after post)

all the best. Keep positive and in the moment, and look after youself.

Enjoy.

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checkupon.m offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (44 minutes after post)

thank you so much both of you :)

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