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I feel ugly and useless.

And insignificant. Almost invisible.

Sometimes I wonder whether I actually exist at all. Or whether I’m only actually here when someone wants something, and then I go away the rest of the time.

I don’t know. I guess I should sleep. I’ve been doing less and less of that lately. :(

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tristessetoujours offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

why do you feel this way? do people ignore you? use you? and do you mean you feel physically ugly, or simply ugly as in bad?

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Da⌐11 offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

Well since I and others will be responding to this post; it clearly means you exist.

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deathlover offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

i no how u feel im tha same way as u r life gets better trust me

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numbersrcoo offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

We all exist, even if only in our own minds. Luckily, if we are really only figments of our own imaginations, then we can make this whatever we want it to be. Imagine something better for yourself.

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deathlover offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

i finally found love again

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=Adam= offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Riverton, NJ, US | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

You’re important. You matter. You’re a person.

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dajoca83 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

you can bring out all the clichés here but at the end of the day its what you feel that matters. i think and im sure many will agree, that no one is invisible. if you feel people are traeating you like that its clear that they see you, but are choosing not to aknowledge you. this is usually because theyre insecure in themselves… they feel threatened by you… or theyre just nasty people! i agree with Da-11. . . we hear you!

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deathlover offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

try finding love u will feel better

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tristessetoujours offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

if you feel too ugly, talk to people online. they can’t see you, and won’t judge you by your physical self. in the end, it’s the inner you thats going to shine. i think you’re on the right track, if you don’t have anyone near you, talk to people online. there are so many people, at least a few will take notice, and will find you worthy of friendship. if you need to talk, we’re all here to listen. all of us posted on here even if we don’t know you, just to show you we care. keep talking.

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deathlover offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

were here 2 help u

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Rain37 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

tristessetoujours - There are probably multiple factors contributing to what I’m feeling. People ignore me, unless they want to use me. Not everyone, but some. Enough to matter. And I feel all kinds of ugly.
Most of my human interaction is done online anyway. It’s hard for me to talk to people IRL… ironic because I’m a sales consultant. Heh. But thanks for your advice, I’ll remember it.

Da⌐11 - That answers one question, then :)

deathlover - I’m happy for you, but I’m not the sort of person who believes that “finding love” is the ultimate fix. I have a boyfriend and we love each other dearly despite all our issues.

numbersrcoo - That’s very philosophical :P

ObamAdam(MIA) - Thankyou.

dajoca83 - That’s true… perhaps I need to find better people to hang out with. Unfortunately some of them are family members. Not much I can do about those.

Thanks everyone for your replies so far. I appreciate the time :) I feel a bit better now. It’s 4am so I really should go to bed. But again, thankyou.

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deathlover offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

go 2 sleep hun

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ireneadle offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (8 months after post)

Not sleeping can either be a cause, or a symptom of depression. You might want to talk to a doctor about that :)

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