school help: alright right now im in school and my ex is in class in about 30 min she will get out and me and her have the same class next what should i do ? - Help.com

send her a note or something and tell her that you think she’s looking depressed lately, and ask her if she wants to talk.

and to make sure she feels comfortable, tell her you value her friendship, and you don’t want a close friend to be sad.

I lol’d at the, “the guy she is with she met over a online video game and they have never met each other personally”

lock90 wrote:
but she had a secret lover behind my back

do you still care about her? if you do, you’ll have to forgive her and try and help her. that guy could wreck her life. do you want that to happen?

just talk to her, have a nice open conversation. listen to her opinions, her thoughts. try and understand her judgement, and then, if you still feel she’s getting into something bad, you can tell her that frankly.

It’s an online boyfriend… they have never actually met. I don’t get how the younger people don’t understand the distinction between an online relationship and a REAL relationship.

Imagine playing Grand Theft Auto… whatever man, beat up a cop, run from the FBI, it’s generally a mellow relaxing good time.

Now imagine actually running from people who are firing guns at you, guns that are ripping gaping holes in your flesh.

That’s the difference between an online relationship and an ACTUAL relationship.

But, that’s beside the point. She ended the relationship, and since her ‘rebound’ is an online dude… she hasn’t found anything else. After a breakup both parties get lonely… she might be contacting you hoping for the comfort of a friend without the complications of a relationship. If you really care about her… just be her friend. But… usually people go the crappy route and decide to either hate their ex or try desperately and obsessively to get back together.

The relationship is over, you can have a friend… or not.

if she doesn’t love you, there’s nothing you can do. unfortunately, you can’t make people love you…but you can still try and make sure she doesn’t get into trouble. have an open conversation with her, try and listen to her point of view; understand her judgement. if you still think hes not the right guy for her, tell her frankly. it can’t hurt.

Okay… what the hell do you think you’re doing ‘confronting’ your ex about a relationship? Granted, it’s a ‘play-relationship’ but really mate… she’s not yours, you never owned her, and she certainly owes you nothing after the breakup. Did you expect that she would remain single forever?

Be her friend, or go the crappy route and find a reason to hate her. Just don’t get all obsessive.

i know, love can be incredibly unfair. but you know, there’s someone out there who is the right one for you…someone who deserves you and loves you and respects you. you just have to wait for her.

Just smile and relax. Show her that you consider her a friend, but don’t focus on her. Be comfortable around her… it’s the best and pretty much the only way to help her be comfortable around you.