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Heartbreak

So most of y’all probably don’t want to hear this and if you dont want to then don’t even acknowledge it exists. Most of y’all know that I had been dating Brittany for almost three years. Recently me and her broke up. I’ve been taking it really hard and everyone keeps giving me the same advice. They tell me I just have to erase her from my life and get over it They tell me to move on and tell me that she wasn’t good enough. Its so easy for people to tell you that kind of stuff when their not the ones going through it. For me I loved this girl with all my heart. Maybe we had alot of fights did go on but at the end of the day we always made up. I didn’t know what love was until I met her and i didn’t know what heartbreak was until she left me. I find myself always asking why, why, why? But in the end, the answer points to me. I took her for granted and always failed her when she needed me the most. I tried fixing things , but in her head it was to late. I can’t get past it. I still smell her, I can still feel her skin, her lips. Just everything. I sleep on the floor at night because my bed reminds me of her. Its pitiful, I know. I hope most of y’all haven’t experienced this pain yet. Its unreal. I wake up thinking about it and go to bed thinking about it. When im with other people I wish I was with her. The worst thing about it is I have to get over it. Im moving to dallas next month. Ive been waiting for her to ask me to stay but I realize i’m waiting for nothing. I want her, i’m in love with her, but shes gone. Its always worst when your on the receiving end. I’m trying to get past her and the only way to do it is to cut her out. No calling, no texting, nothing. If i do it just starts the process all over again. Heartbreak is horrible. Its a physical manifestation. I feel it in my chest and I feel it in my stomach. Until someone fills this void (this missing piece) inside of me, I don’t know if I will ever feel the same. I loved her with every inch of my being. She dragged all the pieces of me with her.

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Adrenaline! offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

I know what u are talking about.. And yea indeed - its easy for people to give all that crap advises about forgetting and move on.. I know its not that simple.. And I do know the pain.. I can’t give u any advises sorry.. I’m still fighting with the pain myself.

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kkovalc offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

ya im torn up. rejection is the worst

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Adrenaline! offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

I agree.. Sometimes I wish I wasnt able to fall in love.. Love has been more evil than good to me so far.. Although I do try to keep the great memories - I believe that is important.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

Well, I’m not sure if this is very helpful, but I too had my heart broken recently. For what it’s worth, I started working out like crazy and that’s pretty much the only thing that has helped me feel better. It will take time to get over, but I know it will happen. For now…at least I’ll be in really good shape. I also got a dog which has been cool and I watch a lot of comedy. Good luck.

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KC offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

By the way…you are right. Breaking off all contact is much better. It will only prolong the pain if you keep talking to each other. I speak from experience.

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1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

Dude you got your broken by some chick! JOIN THE CLUB!

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Adrenaline! offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Chicks are dangerous!

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Canoso offline Verified User (2 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
London, ON, CA | 1 year ago (4 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Well, it seems that you know what you have to do.
“No calling, no texting, nothing.” - Time and distance are the only cure for love.
Still, i get what you feel, is devastating …..bah…

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bramblejelly offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 hours, 41 minutes after post)

Love known and lost is better than love never known at all…

Carry the memory like a fire in your heart and use it to better all new relationships.

As for the pain, best I can offer you is chocolate, duvets and lots of friends. Find something to focus on to improve you or your life and throw your energy into that.

Best advice I can give…sorry I can’t remove the pain.

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