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Continue as normal with this girl with the intention that you will be just friends…if her status changes with her BF than you will be in a great position to be her support/sounding wall which could lead into a deeper relationship between the two of you. In the meantime, don’t screw it up and tell her your feelings…just enjoy the pain of really wanting someone and thinking they are the greatest…it’s a bittersweet longing that many many people go through. It’s all good!

just try to boost your relationship, dont move to fast ok, your feelings will calm a bit when you spend more time with her, just ‘bump’ into her at break or lunch and talk to her, just try little things to talk to her more :)

I know people like her, she’i just trying to feel the greatness of been the one for a guy is suffering for. She knows you like her, she knows you’re better than the other guy, but, at her age, it’s a kind of funny, to see someone breaking down for us. So do what you think is good for yourself, if it worths, go to her, and make her your girl, she is already, even if she never acepts it. If she realy is in love with the guy, let her go. because i think you are starting to enjoy the pain, and the is not helthier for nobody. Don’t get used to it, cut it up. Do your best, but, do something to get the end of the horroble story when one is in love, the other one does not know. Bolony!! all of us know when another loves us.

1st off id like to say what the heck are you talking about emeli73?
did you even read what you typed?

now then, vic, i really don’t want to mess up her relationship cause 1 id feel terrible and 2 thats kind of against my morals to try and “steal her”

thank you willa and like.me for actually reading and thinking about my question before making a response!
I plan on doing what you two said.
For now, do you guys have any other tips for me?
Thanks

Hi anonymous,

I once had a similiar situation, and we, over the years, became very good ….friends. But not without the nescissary drama etc..First i was in love and didn’t tell, then he was and didn’t tell cause i had boyfriend, then we both had other lovers and lifes and although liking eachother madly we never became the couple we both felt was this once in a life time thing…instead we became life time friends.. and im talking 10 years later.

I don’t know how long you’ve been in love with her and how well you know her, but
waiting for somebody without them knowing you are actually waiting, is just plain sillyness. As far this girl and her knowing about your crush or not, what does it matter? She’s still with her boyfriend and you have principles.. If you really are crazy about this girl, and you think it its a do or die thing, so to speak, just do it..but if you doubt that feeling.. just take it easy for a while and leave her to her happy boyfriend life and give yourself time to get over her.
Cause if you do what Willa says you betray her in your “BF” friendship by always having a hidden agenda.

But there is no gain in sitting across the table just staring at something that might be…Cause if you don’t do something…you will land in the friendzone, as you call it.
The truth is just the truth , it will not force her to break up with her boyfriend.

i hope this helps a little, but Love just has her way of being a little b*tch…Good luck

thanks miauw
what exactly could i do though?
it would be kind of strange to just ask her out or something when i know she has a boyfriend woudnt it?
(also just fyi to answer your questions we’ve known each other only since this school year started and i think that she might know i like her, just cause of some of the things she says, she always tries to keep things flirty between us.
Thanks again mauiw, id really appreciate it if you would help me out a little more with my other questions, whereas you obviously know what you are talking about!

aaah thanks … im so glad you found it kind of usefull…

as said in my previous post, i think you should know what you find important(love or friendship) and what you want out of it, and than act accordingly.
I suggest you give it some time before telling her anything, the year is only 3 months in, and you don’t want to haste your self in a friendship destructed, plus what do actually know about her? Maybe she’s got an insane pimple ***, andcrazy angerfits..point is nobody is perfect and try to get to know them well before embarking on a broken heart……And don’t worry about the boyfriend to much, aslong as you don’t set out to separate them, you are doing nothing wrong.

You can always ask her out to do something fun, its not weird, its not even a date, its sociable.And if she thinks its a big betrayal toward her boyfriend she won’t accept, right?

(And , i know this sounds like bulls*t,but girls do have a way of noticing when a boy likes them and tend to act all flirty, but it doesn’t mean they mean it.doesn’t mean she don’t mean it either but it is a truth…And believe me, if you act all distant, a bit hard to get for a period of time, it will make her think twice aswell.And because you get to see an other side of her, this is a good way af checking out if you really like her aswell..a bit of advise from the devil.)

You’re in a thight spot though, you have friend, and she’s obviously fantastic and you want her as a lover more than a friend but at the same time you don’t want to lose her…In other words, take it easy for now, do what you think is right, follow your own instinct, cause if she likes you, she will like you regardless. i’m sorry if this doen’t answer your questions, but this is the best advise i can give you for now..
Best of luck!!

thanks
that actually helps out a lot. It was exactly the advice i was looking for!
Thank you very much, you really have no idea how great of a help you’ve been to me!

well thats great to hear!
good luck!