Maybe she does not want to be gay?
she does say she’s bisexual….. :(
Have you guys actually had a heart to heart about the whole thing. Sometimes what goes unsaid is what really needs to be said out in the open.
i can relate to this girlfriend, even though i am straight. relationships are scary, and especially if its the first gay relationship for both of you. she probably feels awkward and it is a big step for both of you. if its too hard to confront her about this (though it is a good idea to ask her about where the relationship is going) try making your efforts a little more pronounced; and maybe she will catch on.
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Maybe she has her good and bad mood days?
yeh, seagulls right, it’s really hard to ask her about it
we also havent been together that long
i’m also really shy, painfully shy.
im trying very hard to make a lot of effort but it shouldn’t only be up to me right?
i tried to cuddle but it felt like she was rejecting me
I realy dont know how to answer, eccept to say you both realy have to talk about it. It looks like for some reason she is rejecting you. Only the two of you can find out why.
maybe you should give it time, and see how shes like in a week or two
as 2511 says, maybe she has her good and bad days
but is it not a little weird that we spent the night together, ALONE, and didn’t even have a little kiss? are we just too shy for each other?
wolverine;) wrote:
but is it not a little weird that we spent the night together, ALONE, and didn’t even have a little kiss? are we just too shy for each other?
It’s kinda weird yeah…
Why so shy? what’s wrong about a relationship?
neither of us are used to making a move..
i know that i’ve only ever been with men or girls with more confidence and they’ve always made the first move.
now i feel it’s up to me, but i’m lost. didnt have a clue what to do
especially cause when i try i get no response!!! argh!
So…why are you afraid of making a move? why so shy? what could end up wrong?
It would look like it wasn’t realy what she wanted, it might be you will never be together again like that.
This is a thought you should take into considderation.
well, the fact i’ve tried and got nothing back has made me slightly more nervous about doing it again in the future….
just make a move… she is probably really really nervous and i always like it when guys make the first move.
Is stuff like this that makes you weary of future relationships. It makes you gun shy. Then you might become afraid to try and start a relationship with someone else.
thep wrote:
It would look like it wasn’t realy what she wanted, it might be you will never be together again like that.
This is a thought you should take into considderation.
Perhaps…
wolverine;) wrote:
well, the fact i’ve tried and got nothing back has made me slightly more nervous about doing it again in the future….
Well, what have you done? you tried to control yourself, right?
I’d say just be honest and talk to her about it. All relationships need good communication and honesty between you both.
what dyou mean tried to control myself….. if you mean have i jumped on top of her demanding ’something’, defo not lol.
im really not like that.
i just want to be shown that im liked. a kiss would be nice
To control yourself I mean that, you thought too much, and you didn’t loose yourself up….
well.. i dont know. i’ve hugged, i’ve cuddled, i’ve held her hand. but nothing back.
i dont really know what you mean by loose myself up..
like am i trying to hard?
maybe your overthinking this, maybe next time you see her shell have gotten out of her bad mood. next time you do see her, you should definitly try to at least kiss her and gauge her reaction.
I mean, can you relax while you do all that?
And as a thought, talk to her about it…
i don’t think it was a bad mood, she’s always like this when we meet.
really sweet and flirty through text, but nothing in person.
i need to talk to her, god knows how i go about it. like i said, we havent been together that long and i dont wanna scare her off
i totally get why you dont want to talk to her about it…. it would be mad awkward. i say if your too scared in person, maybe text her about it??
maybe yeh. i’m probably more capable of asking in text rather than in person.
in fact, definately more capable lol
i think she liked the idea of having a girlfriend. it’s almost fashionable now to be gay or bisexual :\
but it hurts the people who actually do have genuine feelings… i really do have a lot of feelings for her
wolverine;) wrote:
i don’t think it was a bad mood, she’s always like this when we meet.really sweet and flirty through text, but nothing in person.i need to talk to her, god knows how i go about it. like i said, we havent been together that long and i dont wanna scare her off
ok im giving you no choice here. im coming round tomorrow and we can talk about this, okay.
i just don’t know about gayness otherwise i would have said she is not digging you .You not the one she is looking for .Sorry but that is what i can feel..
but why did she ask me out then?? is she really that daft :(
maybe she’s a little nervous about dating a girl. you should just give it sometime. she will come through hopefully.
bed-time.
thank you for everyones help x
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