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Well, I havent been in contact with this guy in a long

time - we met when we were out for a night couple months ago and it was as if we were never apart! We always got in like a house on fire until r friendship blossomed and we ended up having an afair behind my boyfriend - his friends back.

I know I done a bad thing and when my boyfriend confronted me about it i was fully honest about everything that went on. My boyfriend and I were going through a very bad patch and we weren’t really talking with one another unless we were drinking in company with friends - then he always went off and left me on my own with his mates.

The 1st time it happened was when my bf left a bar early but insisted I stayed with his two male friends for a drink - then when i was going home they both came in a taxi with me to make sure i got home safely. I am a very friendly person and as usual i gave them hugs bye bye and then his friend kissed me and it made me feel good!

But getting more to the point - i added his friend after our night out and he ignored it for ages, now he added me back today just when i thought he didnt care anymore… I love my boyfriend - i really do but I want to be friends with the other guy too.

Any advice?

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1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

Umm..it’s pretty obvious what will happen if you continue being friends with “the other guy”.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 58 minutes after post)

i would leave the bf for the other guy your bf is prob cheatin y else would he leave you at the bar with his friends and go home

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 4 minutes after post)

my advice would be nip it in the bud while you can because your feelings for this guy could very easily end up growing, you’ll get attached, you’ll want to be more than friends, it’ll be messy and then it’ll be harder to lose either him or your boyfriend…this is from my experience anyway!!

i guess it all depends how old you are and how serious you are about your current boyfriend, i used to have friendships and boyfriends that i “loved” when i was at school but they were transient really…where as now friends i have and relationships i make i really intend to last…so i guess what i’m trying to say is look to the future and if you won’t care if you don’t know either of these guys in ten years time then i guess you have a lot more emotional space to play with…

someone please say if i’m really wrong….

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GB | 1 year ago (6 hours, 14 minutes after post)

You can still be friends with ur bfs mate, whats stopping you. but you neeed to decide who it is you want to be with because you could be really hurting him right now. I doubt he wants that and i doubt you do either. it sounds like your not ready to stop this affair so if thats the case, end it with your bf. It out of order having affairs, my advice x

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (18 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Im not having an afair with him, that stopped over 1year ago but I suppose I just liked that he cared, I love my boyfriend so much - im turning 21 btw, i think my bf is the one i want to grow grey and wrinkly with and have children who have children who have children.

I dont want to be with his friend that way anymore i just want to talk to him without my bf thinking theres summit going on!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

that is not how your first post sounded it sounds like you have strong feelings for both so which is it

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