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Do you think she’ll be okay?

I’m leaving the country for the rest of the school year. I have a very disturbed friend who told me she would run away with her boyfriend if I left(he used to abuse her physically and mentally but promised not to after they reconciled). He is a drug addict and is unstable.
Here is some more info on her situation:
http://help.com/post/209638-do-you-th...

I’m not sure what to do. I’ll be in Germany for the next couple months. I’ll wanted to keep in contact through letters but I think it is extremely probable that she would run away.

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jenn offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

I really don’t know a solution…is it possible for you to ask her if she wants to come with you? I’m not sure what your situation in Germnay will be but it may give her an opportunity to imagine life without her boyfriend and make a break for the future while you don’t have to worry about what’s happening at home.

My best friend has a very controlling girlfriend and has often talked about doing stupid things and it worries me sick, so I kind of know a bit how you must be feeling.

Have you spoken to your friends family or parents about this? It might be a good idea if they are the right sort of people maybe they could help…

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антихрист offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (45 minutes after post)

i don’t think that would work
she is enrolled here and her parents definitely won’t let her leave the country on such short notice. Also, she doesn’t speak German and there is the problem of money. I have no right to reveal this personal information to outside parties… she explicitly told me not to tell anyone. I would only consider this option if he physicially hurt her again (which he hasn’t)

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антихрист edited this post 1 year ago. Read the previous text »

I’m leaving the country for the rest of the school year. I have a very disturbed friend who told me she would run away with her boyfriend if I left(he used to abuse her physically and mentally but promised not to after they reconciled). He is a drug addict and is unstable.
Here is some more info on her situation:
http://help.com/post/209638-do-you-th...

I’m not sure what to do. I’ll be in Germany for the next couple months. I’ll wanted to keep in contact through letters but I think it is extremely probable that she would run away.

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molotok offline Verified User (3 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
Gvle, 03, SE | 1 year ago (2 days, 15 hours after post)

Antichrist, I know that situation of being the only one having the info.
It really sucks, but there is nothing to do. If he is controlling her, he will also be able to convince her that she needs him.
If you revealed the info, no doubt she would defend him and turn it towards you.
The only solution is if SHE could look objectivly on her own situation, and decide accordingly.
No other person can convince her from the outside of their relation.

So it all comes down to how important your trip is. You cannot live her life, or decide it for her. If she runs away with him, that does not mean that she is gone forever.

Удачи! (Good luck!)

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