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I hope things get better for you. I have added you as a friend.

i personally think that posting problems on places like this is good cause it lets you throw all of your troubles on a post and look at them as a whole as well as separate.
i never really go for any replies
what makes you hate school so much? is it too hard? confusing?
where is your dad moving?

how about that “go with him” plan?

oh ok.
well what of him leaving then?
it does not seem to do much to you.
i think it is cool that you managed to stay this sane with all of this chaos.
i know kids in situations not even have of yours and they spend all day high and out.
the fact that you kept a conscious thought is surprising.
i expect a bestselling book in 10 years or so on how you did it.
just keep on to this hope, don’t do stupid things because it feels bad now, it has to get better.
so many kids doing all kinds of things to escape this and you, in a horrible situation stay strong enough to get around it.
i really hope this thought helps you as much as it helps me

and yet you still have the will power to drag through it!
doing much better than you would with drugs

good. one step closer to getting out alive

some good copypasta
1. Never stop questioning. Every time you feel frustrated with a task, ask yourself, “How does this task fit in with my ultimate goals?” “How can I do this better, faster, easier, simpler, and even more fun?”

2. Don’t give up on life. Be interested and curious about yourself and about others. Don’t assume that’s “just the way it is”. Look for the choices behind your results.

3. Accept your weakness. Don’t deceive yourself by thinking you’re the only one with difficulties in their life. Everybody has them (yes, everybody!). Instead of spending your time and energy trying to “overcome” your weakness, make friends with it and make it work for you. Where would NYPost Columnist Liz Smith be without her “weakness” for gossip?

4. Don’t stop learning. The brain is a muscle just like any other, and it will stagnate if you let it. Make it your rule to learn something new every day. Then USE what you learn to make your life better.

5. Expect nothing; expect the best. Paradox? No. It just means that you don’t want to miss out on what’s wonderful in your life right now, while you spend all your time peeking around the next corner.

6. Don’t lie to yourself.. Telling lies to yourself is the most harmful form of disrespect. Write out ways in which you are untruthful to yourself, and how to correct it. “I will no longer pretend that overspending my budget is ok”.

7. Nurture what you want to grow. Many many people are (figuratively) wondering where the roses are in their life, yet they spend all their time planting and nourishing weeds. You reap what you sow. That’s just the way it is.

8. Don’t live in the past. Let go of things that are draining you. There’s nothing in the past that you can change or correct — that can only be done in the present. Use Today. Today, change what you need to change, and move on to feeling good about your life.

9. Swim with the current. Don’t waste your time complaining about what you can’t control (weather, other people, economy). Concentrate on what you CAN control, like who you hug, what you read, how much you laugh, where you go, what you do, what you think about.

10. Stand like a Rock. You know what’s right for you –be willing to stand up for what’s right for you.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
Or not dieing one way.. Theres still others. And quite honestly.. I already feel dead. like, zombie like. I go to school, before school starts all I do is cry, and then I cry through all my classes, and then I come home and under my eyes feel all raw and I feel tired, and I feel all dead..

don’t worry, zombies don’t cry. you are still alive
you just need to find some way to enjoy life
ignore everything else for a while and enjoy it

then who are you lieing to?

little lies to others can make things go by a bit easier sometimes, but lies usually leave guilt

what is your favorite thing ever?
can be anything from food to feelings

i also suggest not lying too much. can get you into a hole

if your fave thing is music, what song?
sports, what sport?
etc

most of those are lies! don’t let yourself confuse you.
you are a good person

those are the worst lies. those are the ones you confuse yourself with so badly that you cannot tell that they are false

tell me a few of them.

see? those are all false. you have confused yourself to believing those things!
I have seen what i am guessing is your picture being used as an avatar for a while.
you are not ugly!
I have seen you help others here including me, you are not worthless.
I know for a fact that only those who do ont fit in fit in by not fitting in. making them greater than those who fit in by fitting in.

how do you know you are not?
does me seeing you as being pretty and helpful and important not prove that you are?

the point is to make something of life. to do stuff!
there really is no other point
the purpose of living is different for every person you just need to keep searching untill you find it!

it does untill you find it! the point untill you find it is to find it!
you need to do new things and try everything once

there is no after life. you only have now to change it!
get out there and say hi to people!

why not?

well it just will take some time but you need to push yourself out there.
i push myself out and get myself stuck in something inescapeable. i hate it while it is going on but i love it in the end

all people?
why do feel so lonely if you despise them all?

they give up on you because you gave up on them.
you need to learn to trust people more and to not instantly think they will do harm

first you need to throw yourself out there, do something to get a conversation started

i am too, but i use will power to throw myself into projects and convos so i am forced to interact with them

i know it is hard but the sooner you start trying the quicker things will work out!

you need to start trying! it is up to you to do something! i cannot make you talk and be social myself XD

I hope things are alright for you mary-chan

Just checking up on you:)

Ok, I was thinking about this.

I couldn’t really respond to this post because there were too many problems at once. Maybe that’s your problem for dealing with your issues as well. Perhaps you should just write one problem at a time on a blank paper and think about possible solutions for each problem. Don’t try to consider them all at once. That is too overwhelming.

Don’t let your bro hit you. Tell your parents. If they don’t defend you, hit back, unless he’s bigger, in that case talk to your school counselor.