Love help: How do you start loving yourself again? - Help.com

First, if you can’t love yourself; nobody else can. Second, reach inside of yourself and focus on your good qualities. Once you discover your good qualities, you’ll have no problem loving yourself.

ok….you used to love yourself?
whats with the change?

Yes, think about what evansent said. When did you love yourself? How do you remember that being? And, when do you think this changed? Was there a traumatic event in your life, or did you just lose touch with yourself?

It isn’t as hard as it looks, unless you have no determination to change. List the things that are good, then list the things that are holding you back.
Dont bother with the list of good things at this stage. Just hang on to them like dear life. It’s the list of things that are holding you back, you have to work on. One at a time, replace them with the opposite. Scrub each one off the bad list and add what you have replaced it with, to the good list. You will end up with just good traits. Well nearly, none of us are perfect.
It does come down, in the end, as to how determined you are.

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Just take some time every day to reflect on how great you are, and how much you have to offer the world. It helped me a lot at one point in my life, idk if it will help again.

[quote evansent 2008]ok….you used to love yourself?
whats with the change?[/quote
the man that i was in love with my soul mate left me for someone else and is still living with me, i have tried to kick him out but wont go his has no money!!!! the other girl is married with 2 kids thats why he cant stay with her!!! and i’m going crazy….
I lost myself with him, so really is was not my soul mate…then I met a really nice strong REAL MAN and I messed that up too… I’m lonely and sad, I know that no can love me until i love me 1st, but it would help me if someone could show me some real affection - stupid i know but i know me and i can need someone to believe in me and find me sexy, smart, fun!
i have never had to deal with DEPRESSION of my own,

Alright, because this man is still living with you, it’s hard for you to move on.
Get the locks changed on your doors and put all his stuff out on the lawn. Call the police if he tries to get in. Really he hurt you and is continuing to hurt you (and take advantage of you).
You need to heal and that cannot be done while he is around so your first step is to put your foot down, be a STRONG WOMAN, and say goodbye.

Anon:

I think what you’re doing is admirable (that is letting this man live with you) however, if it’s costing you your own self-worth; I’d rethink this. You are supposed to take care of yourself first and love yourself. I’ve been in your situation before and I can tell you honestly…you’ll be a doormat as long as you allow him to be a spoiled brat.

I think u should kick him out. He cant toy with ur emotion and stil live with u. U’ve got to be strong and take a bold step girl!