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I’ve heard several times from people on this website that you should take a rubber band and keep it on your wrist. Everytime you want to cut, snap the band.

Does that work? I don’t know much about this really I’ve never actually told anyone about this. My sister kind of out of the blue caught me…it was really, I can’t even explain the feeling. I feel even worse then ever about it now.

When did she see this happening? I can be traumatic for her and you to both have this occur. Maybe you can take this in your advantage and sit and have a talk with her about it with an adult

I smoke instead of cutting. sometimes I doesnt help and I stil cut, but the smoking helps alot.

wow.. how lame seriously grow the *** up and geta girlfriend ffs lol

a week ago. Everytime I try to talk to her about it she gets really upset. Usually she starts crying. I hate seeing what this is doing to her. It makes me want to do it even more

Well, smoking isn’t a good alternative to do cutting yourself. It’s still very harmful to your body.
What do you think would happen if she started crying, it made you really upset to the point where you wanted to cut yourself, but you didn’t?

Maybe you should ask her to help you… everytime you want to cut, try and sit and talk to her, tell her you want to cut, but you choose not to. and you’d rather sit and chat with her to make you feel better. Make her you’e accountability patner.

A few times I did becasue I couldn’t take it anymore. When she’s home she doesn’t let me out of her sight (she isn’t home right now) It kind of gets frustrating at times but I know she cares alot about me. Just sometimes it feels bigger then that…is that dumb?

Plus I don’t want to burden this all on her. I don’t want her worrying about me all the time. It isn’t fair to her to worry about her little sister all the time. I wish none of this had happened….

No, trust me I really understand where youre coming from. Its not dumb. Why are you cutting? What does the cutting make you feel?

Anonymous wrote:
No, trust me I really understand where youre coming from. Its not dumb. Why are you cutting? What does the cutting make you feel?

It makes me feel alive again. It’s kind of a way to make the pain inside go away. When I make it hurt it’s like ‘ok, i’ll be ok’ cause I’m the one hurting myself and no one else is. Sometimes I’m soo numb tho that even cutting doesn’t work. Ahhh I”m a freak!

You’re not a feak, I promise. You just have alot of pain in you’re heart you don’t know how to deal with. I know you don’t want to burden someone with tyhe sories of youre heart, but i promise you, you won’t stop cutting if you don’t let someone in and help them help you figure out the scars of your heart. You’ve grown numb because you’ve let the hurt inside write youre life story.. you have to make a concious decision that you want to change your heart. I know its not easy… its really hard. And people wont understand what it is that hurts so much that you need to cut, they never do, they see it as a flaw. Find someone you can talk to, find someone you can really trust and start living again.

* sorry for all the typing errors, didnt scan the message before I sent it.

I punish myself in many ways physically. Try to educate yourself as to what other things make people happy. Like TV, Music, Socialising, Hobbies - Read books/Dance/Video Games/Sports…By the time you have tried several new things and learned to love doing lots of them…masturbation is better than cutting yourself. You will learn that you like making your own decisions and will learn that acting and thinking positively you can life happily. Laugh dont cry. When your upset remember times that made you smile.

Well wishes. Take care and stop hurting yourself.

From a previous cutter–

Tell your parents. You need to go to a psychologist. I know it’s hard, but you need to find help so you can stop this before it goes too far… When things go too far, your life will never be the same again. Take it from someone who knows: it won’t get better until you try to get better (WITH someone else’s help, an ADULT’S help).

Anonymous wrote:
From a previous cutter–Tell your parents. You need to go to a psychologist. I know it’s hard, but you need to find help so you can stop this before it goes too far… When things go too far, your life will never be the same again. Take it from someone who knows: it won’t get better until you try to get better (WITH someone else’s help, an ADULT’S help).

This is so very true. Often people realize what they are doing is harmful to them but they don’t realize the severity of it. Now that your sister knows you can realize how this effects others not just yourself. You can get help. People are out there who specialize in making you feel better without you having to hurt yourself.
What would you say if we told you to go see a counselor or an adult that you’re close to?

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* sorry for all the typing errors, didnt scan the message before I sent it.

LOL! It’s ok. You know your right I do ned to start living again. Sometimes I just simply don’t want to go on. Maybe I should tell someone about this. My sister is my best friend and I talk to her about everything. This is just something I can’t talk to her about. There’s so much goin on inside my head right now it makes me dizzy…literaly. Who can I talk to with out my parents finding out…They just wouldn’t understand. They probably would send me away, no joke!

Are you still in school?

I grad. hs last year and me and my sister started junior college together this year. She grad. the year before I did.

Long story shot. No, I’m not in High school :0

I don’t know if you’re college has the same services as ours, but we have a student help cente at our university. They have people trained there who can help, and its really save because its totally confidential. Maybe you sould find out about something like that. No one has to know about that. If they don’t, well then we’ll have to make another plan.

I’ll try that! Thanks!! At your school do you have to make an appointment? I go to school with my sister. We ride together and have a lot of the same classes. I would like to do this part by myself with out her knowing. ahhhh i gotta go she’s home now! Thanks for helping!

Yup, you have to make an appointment. So just plan when to go, i’ll check up on this message regulary, so if you don’t have that at you’re college we find another plan to help you. promise i’m here. Tske care.

Hey! I checked at the school I gave them a call and they don’t have anything like that. What about the health department I googled it? I think I’m gunna try there…thanks again

try health4me.org

Hi, sorry i’ve been so quiet, studying for finals. Have you found someone to talk to yet? Please let me know.

Hey!Thanks for checkin back with me:) Yeah I guess I’m talking to a councilor at this county place. I had a meeting with her and she suggested a doctors appointment? Sooooo today I’m goin to see him to see if something medicaly is wrong with me to make me feel this way. IDK what to tell him! I’m kind of nervous about it really haha. IDK just between you and me IDK if a councilor is the right way to go. You see you have to make an appointment and wait and honestly I can’t wait to talk to someone, at times I need them there now….thats selfish huh?!

Okay… I understand that you maybe dont feel like its helping at the moment, but counseling will help you controle the feeling. I know its not a immediate help, but if you need immediate help you will have to let someone close in to support you. I know thats really revealing, but sometimes you just have to do somethings out of the box. I’m really glad you took that step. Its something to be really proud of. O about the doctor… tell the truth. Dont try and put a face on. Then he/she cant help. If your scared or shy, ask someone to go with. Someone you trust, someone who can support you. Will be back tomorrow.