boyfriend help: my boyfriend and me are nineteen, i work at a daycare and pretty much know everything there is to know about babies. - Help.com

It takes two to have a baby and I am sorry but what you are doing is wrong. Just because you are ready to have a child, he is not. You have to respect that or find another guy, or just wait until the time is right. Why can’t you wait? You are nineteen! Trust me, life is long and being a family is a beautiful thing. Why don’t you two focus on some shorter term goals like careers, education, and marriage. Pathe the foundation for a strong family before making one by accident. I’ll you really love this guy, you would get back on your birth control and start talk (and planning) more with him.

dont you think just maybe you should get married…? and whouldnt he be angry if you got pregnant and he didnt want to have a baby?

Hon…. from expierence, please wait. Babysitting, daycare, its SOOOO much different than having your own, trust me! I had my son at 19, though I would have wanted to wait a little longer, I belive I wouldnt have met my son if I had waited, but please, you should wait.

Some men cant handle having kids, wait untill he is ready. Im a single mom now…. so please use my expierence as your own and please please wait.

Babysitting is for a few hours, babies are for 18+ years.

So you know everything there is to know about babies………………….Hmmm……

You should write a book!

I am 30 and have three of my own and I’m still learning. You must be a lot smarter than me!

woh…. three? I can barly deal with my one youngun….. When I learn to bottle Sanity, I shall give you one free of charge. ;)

lol

You grow into it!

P.S. They’re not exactly all babies. The oldest is 6.

Whoooa, he’d better know you stopped the BC. If he doesn’t want a baby that’s his decision. You also have a LOT of time left, why not enjoy life freely a bit until you lock yourself down with the kid.

yeah if he doesnt want one and you end up getting pregnant i’m sure he knows your on Birth control so when he finds out he’s probably going to leave you because he thinks your psycho

I now have 3 kids, the youngest is 20, they were born when I was 32 to 36, I worked for several years in the NICU (neonatal ICU for premature and sick newborns) and have worked years in pediatrics. I sitll don’t know as much as I should about kids! No one ever seems to know enough. Each child is unique and has unique needs. Not just feeding and diapers and help wih homework. Before you have kids, make sure you are financially and emotionally prepared to do so. can you afford the daycare costs? can you find daycare? There are times when they are going to be sick and you won’t be able to go to work, will you be able to take that time wihout risking your job. You also need an education to find a good job to support a family, believe me is costs a fortune now and with people losing jobs left and right now especially, you want to be at the top of the list with an education that will help you find a great paying job that will give your family the financial security that is important. Health cere is a fortune and good healthcare is way to important. What if the baby is born with a problem? Are you ready for that responsiblilty. A baby is a whole change in all your lifestyle, not just a cuddly sweet little one. I just love babies and children, but they are a real handful 24/7. A day at work when you can enjoy them and play with them is wonderful, but you get to go home and “recover” to go back the next day for fun and games. BUT there is no time off when they are your own, no vactions, weekends of to get out and enjoy. In and out of car seats on errands is no joy. They are a life time of responsibility even when they are past 18 and legally an adult! Children are a blessing for sure, but the stresses they can put on a relationship are huge.
I love my kids with all my heart and wouldn’t give them up for anything, even with all my experience before they were born, it still amazed me how unprepared I was for the 24/7 experience. I hope you have lots of family/friend support before you enter into the responsibility of a family. Best of luck and lots of love.