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I feel dead inside.

I haven’t been this depressed in a long time. Nothing is working out for me, I think I will have to leave school, due to anxiety attacks, even though I really wanted to make it work this time - I don’t feel motivated at work, I’m disconnected from everyone… I have always been like this, even since I was five years old, I’m quiet and shy and always over thinking every action I take. I have gone to see many councellars, but never had much success. Recently I’ve been to my doctor who thinks I should be put on anti-depressants but I don’t think that will solve all my problems.

I am only 15 years old… but I feel like an old woman. I don’t know how my life got like this. I just feel like hurting myself, I’m sick of feeling so empty. . I don’t expect anyone to have all the answers to my problems but I just needed a place to get some of it out in the open.

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Tracy-lo offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

I know. . I have thought long and hard about taking any sort of medication. The councellar I have been going to recently suggested that i saw a doctor about it, and things just went from there… But I feel so frustrated that I would try anything at this point.

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Tracy-lo offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

Thank you. I will look through through them. The problem is that I already understand a lot of the strategies used for calming down with anxiety attacks - that the people i have seen don’t really have more they can do to help. I think that’s why they have suggested alternatives like seeing a psychiatrist and doctor. I have read plenty of books on stress, the flight-or-flight response, etc. repeated those words similar in my head for hours, trust me. I still get panicky even though I know all this stuff. My palms sweat,I get stomach pains, sometimes a gag reflex. and it lasts for 15 minutes to an hour. its an ongoing problem but its only surfaced this much since i have been back to highschool.

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 178 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

“feeling” dead inside is somewhat of a misnomer. if youre feeling, then you aint dead inside.
the strategies you know, try actually using them in the situations and see what happens. you cant just use it once and it doesnt work and it sucks, it takes time.

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Tracy-lo offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 37 minutes after post)

When I wrote that I felt dead inside, I was just expressing how I was depressed and it portrayed an empty, hollow feeling for me. I’m sorry if you took it so literal.

I have used those strategies countless times in the past years - like I said, this has been an ongoing problem for me. It still doesn’t do anything for the fact that I get panicky in certain situations, i.e. sitting in a classroom. . it is just the way I react. I understand that you are trying to help, but I don’t think you fully understood my situation. In fact I don’t really know what I was looking for when I posted this - I just wanted to express how I was feeling and maybe get some polite feedback, which I have to a certain degree.

Anyway, thank you for trying to help.

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 178 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 hours, 30 minutes after post)

i do understand, i used to have panic attacks too.
you need to apply the strategies WHILE you are having the panic attacks. thats how it works.

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never_trust_a_wildca offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 month, 4 weeks after post)

I don’t think I can help at all, but just wanted to let you know that reading your post has made me feel like I’m not alone (or insane, which I have been contemplating alot). Thank you.

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salochri offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

Depression has a neurotransmitter link. I believe its dopamine so its not just tha you feel bad for its sake but you may be medically ill. It may have something to do with hormones, get it checked and solved with your doc. All the best

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

You have to find the cure for anxiety first. You can cure anxiety by realizing that you have some kind of fear and act upon it. The other best answer would be love. You need to be around people who care for you, not with those who create a negative environment. Move away from those people. If you can go live in your relatives house for a couple of weeks.
Also, Excersie or dedication to some kind of arts like music, martial arts, or other sports will help you get through easily. You’ll be healthier, stronger and you’ll feel better. Take care.

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