Feel help: have you ever disliked somone because they were too shy? - Help.com

I have never but I know some guys take shyness as rejection. The way I see it is, he should have recognized that you were shy and made the first move. Don’t beat yourself up over it, he had an opportunity just like you did. He squandered it. Try not to think about it. Another chance will come along.

No laura I haven’t. It must feel difficult to be that way, having never been shy myself, I dont understand it but accept it.
Is there a reason that you can pinpoint for being so shy.

I think there must be treatments for it, but dont know of ones that would help. perhaps you could considder this as an option.
Another way that can help is if you verify your account and use this site, to ask questions and try helping in other posts. The nice thing about this, is , no one here knows who you are. So there is no need to be shy.
It helps build your confidence if you take part and we all get to know each other.

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i’ve never disliked anyone because they are shy. usually im just more careful with them, you know what i mean? as i guess i can “sometimes be a bit over the top and rather dramatic” to quote a friend:P. But, it also makes me want to help them come out of their shell if i really like them. lol.

at any rate, i agree with Hi I’m Cliff :)

i don’t like it when people are shy, but i don’t dislike a person just because of shyness

No …never. There is something mysterious and yet endearing about a shy person. Its a friendship one works for, but which is truly worth all the effort in the end… and typically it is a friendship that lasts.

I was shy myself growing up. The thing that gets me are the people who pick on shy people or make them even more uncomfortable with insensitive comments and the old patronizing speech on how they should change. I find them to be more socially awkward than a shy person in my group.I know some people mean well, but if they give it some time and get to know the person individually they might be surprised and delighted at the friend they discover in someone shy.

Some shy people are just sensitive and observant - which is a good thing in my book - as this can be helpful into reading other’s feelings. I tend to find them to be even more empathetic or compassionate.

“The Highly Sensitive Person” - Elaine Aron is a good read. She mentions positive things about this trait in her book.

http://www.hsperson.com/

And you don’t need to change. I think you should just feel comfortable with who you are. In time and with the right group of supportive and encouraging friends some of us do change. I met friends who liked me whether or not I was shy and treated me as part of the group never expecting me to be any more or less… and gradually I came out of my shell and met even more friends. :-)