Love help: need advice…I was with a man for 2 1/2 yrs. - Help.com

get rid of the loser .Cant you find a better guy?

Raising someone else’s child is always difficult and can be a bad move. He could be only saying it because he doesn’t have anything else or maybe he does want you back.

Good luck.

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If you truly love him and want to work through this, together, then I would suggest trying a relationship service such as ‘relate’, or speak to your GP, as there are free NHS alternatives. I’m sorry you’re in this difficult situation and I hope things work out for you, whatever the outcome.

I think it’s a case about selfvalue, if you value yourself enough think what you got. Why did you start loving him, at the begining? it’s not what he realy is. So you lost this time. We have to recognize when we fail, and wake up. Start over, it’s not easy, but; is better than summit urself to a life that goes notwhere. You are not an angel, nor a god; you deserve be loved, too. I guess there’s lot of men looking for a lady with that kind of heart.. So, do not expose urself to that pain.

Thanks I feel a little better

You deserve better. Obviously talk and forgiving him didn’t change him and won’t in the next forgiving moment either. He has to be more responsible. It isn’t good for his kids either. He has problems he needs to come over with before he should have a more serious relationship he is not ready to commit. Talk to him and tell him you will give him all the freedom to do what he likes but in the meantime you will move on. Don’t fall into the trap of apologies and “I love you”s. He doesn’t respect you, never mind love you. So put your feet down on the ground and walk away.

I have at this point,but I do miss him. Hope to be strong this time thx….

Yes, I know what you mean. I was married to a guy like that. He kept apologizing and I kept forgiving until one day I left and never looked back again. I am glad you are not married to such a man.

He asked me to marry him,but thats when I found out he was still married to the mother of his sons. wow I must be a fool …I think this helps

He can try his luck with someone else. In the meantime you look after your needs. Be strong, you deserve better.

You don’t mis him, you are thinking of him, that’s what happens. Start thinking of someone else, your family, friends, go out, eat good, be free. Try to live without him. Cause as much as you talk to him u’ll miss him more. I miss my shoes that i threw out last winter. We are like that… we’re humans.. we miss we forget.. we start over.. we enjoy… Are you enjoying to love him still. I think u may feel proud of loving him that much. lol lol Ask yourself…: Am i a looser?

No i dont feel proud i feel like a fool……

good, that is a goood basement to step on. So welcome to a new begining.