friends help: im soooooooo fed up wits unreal, its been 3 months now since - Help.com

GET OVER IT.. some relationships just arent ment to be… did u know that the average man has 2 people who he considers close friends….. one is his mom true fact.. i can be ur friend if u be mine….

Do you think that maybe, you only feel like you don’t have any good friends simply because you don’t share the same intimacy that you shared with your fiancé?

Ask your self why you are suffering, then ask yourself if there’s any purpose in your suffering. Find the meaning in your suffering and you’ll get through it I guarantee you! ^^

icey4680 obviously has never been in love,if you had ud realise you cant just \2get over it\2, also brilliant reply wil, yes i do compare my relationships, its hard,really hard, im suffereing because i cant just let it go, its too painful

I’m really sorry to hear what you’re going through. I have had a similar experience and it was not pleasant in the slightest.
Try to realize that it’s more painful to keep holding on. Once you let it go you will feel so much better and you will feel able to move on again. For me it was simply a matter of time, but you could try imagery to clear your head. :)

what do you mean by imagery?

Well, if things are getting too much, Imagine a cloud above your head. place all your troubles and anxieties into that cloud until its soo black it appears as if its about to burst. Then get rid of it.
You can make it anything you like :). It may not work for you and maybe not in all situations but you could give it a shot. It doesn’t make your problem go away, but it may prevent you from thinking things out of proportion and into a size that is too large to manage :)

thank you so much, youve been really helpful:)

I hope so. I’m confident that you can turn things in your favor ^^

The best of luck to you! You can ;)

I’m sorry about the break up :( Maybe you aren’t letting the people close to you in. If you feel like you can trust them with your private info tell them what your going through. they may be better friends than you give them credit for. I’m very closed off in gerneral and when i opened up to a friend of mine for the first time she was really touched.

i have opened up, there just not very interested, ive had a best friend in my life for 10 years and i dont have one any moe…its hard,very hard to not have that, i think i need to get used to being on my own properly, without him, just get thorough this time