friends help: Help distract me from my loneliness. - Help.com

Thanks, bookworm16 and veg_head.

Right now I feel really lonely mainly because even when I tried to hang out with a friend today, it was awkward and he didn’t feel like doing anything. Nothing I suggested was good enough, or something. He just wanted to go home. He does this all the time, so normally I would shrug it off and think he just is like that. But I can’t help but feel he doesn’t like ME, because the first thing he did when I came to pick him up was ask where another of our mutual friends was, like he expected it wouldn’t just be me and him. Why?? Amongst everything else in my life, I think this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I feel so very very alone, and this just adds to the wound.

Yeah, that’s what I assumed at first. But then after we walked around the mall for a bit and then went to the car to go find something else to do, he didn’t want to do ANYTHING. It was awkward, and he was like “I’ll just go home.” The whole thing felt like a farce, like he was forcing himself to be around me.

Maybe I’m just seeing this through the lens of unhappiness. The reason I made plans with him was because I was lonely and then it turns out like that. And my sister says I should just find better friends because it must be them, but I don’t know how to make friends.

Anyone have any tips on meeting people? I don’t know how. I’m too shy to randomly say hi to people, and anyway that wouldn’t result in more than a random passing.

Yeah, the friends of my friends have no interest in meeting me. Mainly because they are either gay, or shy, or something. My friends don’t have many friends themselves… Actually, the only reason we are friends is because we were in high school together.

I was thinking of joining a meetup group. I can’t do that right now though, I feel too bad. Lol.

I don’t know why we’re friends really, we don’t have much in common. But we were all loner kids in high school so we gravitated I suppose.

The only thing is, I am shy and I don’t GET how to meet or talk to people. I’ve never had a real friend in my life. I don’t know why. It’s not like I don’t want to do anything. I have likes and dislikes, but for the most part I am up for anything. Just somehow, over the course of my whole life, my friends bail on me again and again. I keep secrets for them, protect them, and everything, and it’s like I don’t matter. I don’t get it. (I know this is all very vague, but like I said before I’m not going to tell my life story… just trust me that I’m telling the truth)

I’ve known this one girl for more than a decade, since we were in elementary school together. We have done so many things together. And yet, she never talks to me, and the only time I see her is when she’s coming with the mutual group of friends to hang out. But she’s pretty and sociable and has a boyfriend and other friends, so I’m left in the dust. That hurts, that even though we’ve been through so much, she couldn’t care less about me. I’ve tried making plans with her, talking with her, but to no avail.

It’s just about the same with everyone else I know. Even my own family doesn’t want to help me. They’ve seen the signs of depression and loneliness and other things, and they’ve never tried to help me. Ever.

Funny enough, I read your thread. :) And also I did like the advice. I had thought of joining meetup before, but I’m so shy. I think I’m at the point where I just need to conquer that or I’m going to go crazy.

mcolwell2 wrote:
that’s a great story i feel that way to all the time

I’m glad I’m not the only one!

I do feel better. Just the fact someone has read this at all… Thanks, all of you. :)