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my parents r splitting up for real.

i dont know when im ever gonna see my mum again as shes going so far away..this problem has been goin on for ages now, and i tried to help but thers nothing i can do about it anymore. shes been blaming me and my sisters for the years of pain between her and my dad. their rules are different, im 21 and she cant treat me like an adult, i respect her and she only ******* about me and throws it back in my face. where is my mum i used to have?

in just 3 months my life has actually been torn apart.

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

I’m sorry :( Your mom has no right to blame you or anyone else for her bad relationship. She’s just using you as a scapegoat right now and will hopefully come to her senses and stop driving a wedge between the two of you. If/when she apologizes for her bad behavior don’t blow up at her; she ought to be ashamed of herself for this.

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X_GC_X offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Hexham, I7, GB | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

Hopefully, this split will be better off for her. It sounds like she’s been quite stressed, so hopefully it’ll give her time to be by herself and think clearly about everything she’s done.

Divorse is never a good thing, but at least you are old enough to understand everything thats happening and think about it like a adult. She’s probably upset about ’staying together for the kids’, a terrible excuse, in my opinion, which is why the blame is directed at you. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything right, and hopefully she’ll see this soon :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

i must admit my Parents were not the ideal couple ,constantly fighting only when my dad got drunk.But they were together until the end .Mum outlived dad more than 20 years. so it must tear you in halve seeing and living through this.but there is really nothing you can do.Just live your that is all i can suggest and go to barbyman.com and listen to one of his songs.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

But you were having family issues right?

What happened in such a little time that ended up in this way?

Have you had the chance to talk about this with your mum&father?

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nurse_rose offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

thanks guys, 2511, its been goin on with my parents the past 3 years…i had tried to talk, and so have my sisters, and it works for a week or two and it goes all bad again..its a circle…ad shes going all the way to a different country now (where shes from), and i dont know when i will ever see her again…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

Yeah, I remember she wasn’t from the UK, and that was the main problem, and that you were sorting out how to meet her & stuff…

But I mean, talk to get to a solution for when they break up, not to avoid it…

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Sorry to hear about it, kid. Not your fault. Just continue to love her. Her world is ending. It’s tearing her apart.

Tell her you love her. And tell your father, too.

That’s all you can do, except pray.

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nurse_rose offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 days, 4 hours after post)

thanks guys,,, mum left a couple hours ago i cant sleep…feel so down atm :((

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 days, 21 hours after post)

Tell her you love her as soon as you can.

And I hope your father will do the same.

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