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I think if you descussed this with your guidance counselor they could be your mouth piece, and express what you feel won’t be heard if you do it. Bottom line, this is your life, and only you know if you feel you can succeed where you are. Apparently you don’t, because of your love for music. You won’t know if you can succeed with it either, but you at least have a better chance, as this is your dream. Your own desire and motivaztion will push you through. Just be sure you give this serious thought. Do it however for you and no one else. You won’t be happy otherwise. Good luck to you :)

If there’s not much time left until the course finishes, complete it. THEN do the music course. That’s one idea, I’m sure other people will have other ideas.

bestemailaddressinth wrote:
If there’s not much time left until the course finishes, complete it. THEN do the music course. That’s one idea, I’m sure other people will have other ideas.

I just started college.

maybe talk to some people in the college to see if you can swap course, the earlier the more chance

my parents wanted me to become a teacher. in the end i convinced them that i teach english in another country for a time. if you do something like that it may help. study somewhere else and maybe music history. find a common link or something similar in what you want to do and what they want you to do. you can both be happy or you could always do what you want and if they really love you they will help.

find that common ground and all will work out.

Part of my problem is that I am going to a technical college, which has very few music courses to offer. I want to change schools, but it doesn’t look like there is much possibility of that happening.

why is that?

I dont know the answer, maybe just do more investigating into your options

give it a go. may be there is something closer that offers what you want

My parents aren’t really in favor of me going to the college that I want to go to.

I might add that the current economy isn’t helping any either.

keep at it. something will work out.

I know. I’m just really down about the whole situation. I keep trying to have a positive outlook on things, but sometimes you just need to get stuff off your mind.

i know what it is like to be down. I have clinical depresion. it dosent help when people tell you what to do even when your just sad or angry. hang in there and things work out in the end. it is nice to talk though. even when it is with someone you have know idea who they are

Yea, no kidding. I find that you can get some really good insight just by reaching out to people. Sometimes the best advice comes from someone with a completely unbiased opinion of your situation.

yeah. you have no idea. actually you might.

i havent even started to study at university yet and my family are drilling me about it.

My advice to you then is definitely go visit the campus that your planning on attending. I went to several colleges that I thought I was sure about to find that the campus wasn’t quite what I was looking for.

Funny isn’t it parents always want what they think is best for you, and yet your told to follow your dreams. Often when you do something you are really interested in you also do better at it.
Your parents may think there is no future financially in what you want to do but if you are in the u.s.a its never too late to pursue your dreams, you could go to college now and do what they want, then later have your music as a sideline or even study it full time, whose life is this anyway? I always think doing something that makes you happy in this world is what counts.

Sasha101 wrote:
Funny isn’t it parents always want what they think is best for you, and yet your told to follow your dreams. Often when you do something you are really interested in you also do better at it.
Your parents may think there is no future financially in what you want to do but if you are in the u.s.a its never too late to pursue your dreams, you could go to college now and do what they want, then later have your music as a sideline or even study it full time, whose life is this anyway? I always think doing something that makes you happy in this world is what counts.

NO KIDDING. Seriously its the worst situation ever. You find your dream pulling you in one direction, and the guilt of your parents pulling the other. Its all very…..how should I say…..confusing and stressful.

Sasha101 wrote:
Funny isn’t it parents always want what they think is best for you, and yet your told to follow your dreams. Often when you do something you are really interested in you also do better at it.
Your parents may think there is no future financially in what you want to do but if you are in the u.s.a its never too late to pursue your dreams, you could go to college now and do what they want, then later have your music as a sideline or even study it full time, whose life is this anyway? I always think doing something that makes you happy in this world is what counts.

Now someone is getting what I am saying.

that’s why (if you haven’t already) you have to confront your parents about this, tell them that music is your dream, give them a list of places where music can take you and persuade them otherwise :)
tell them everything