Love help: I destroyed my 20 year marriage & imediately moved on into a relationship with another woman thinking it would be the answer.

crznpch

I destroyed my 20 year marriage & imediately moved on into a relationship with another woman thinking it would be the answer.

Well the relationship after my ex was a disaster & I believe has caused me more harm or just as much as loosing the women I loved for so long.
I am all alone now. The feelings of being alone are overwhelming me. 5 crazy months with her & we are done. SO much drama.
My friends have even distanced themselves from me. My parents are too elderly to involve in my madness.
I am surrounded by people yet I am TRULY alone. Perhaps there is no answer for me. Perhaps this is punishment for me letting my marriage slip away.
I just don’t know anymore. I have no goals. What do I work for? I feel that I have no plans for the future. I feel the need to be with someone at all costs. I feel the need to be able to give myself to someone & to be able to love and care for someone.
I just can’t seem to be happy being alone. Its like i have to be with someone that I can love and be loved by. It is the focus of my life now. Is it worng? Am I crazy because of my need to be with and or find my soulmate again. God took her from my hands. He hasn’t put anything back yet.

This open post was written 1 year ago | V/U/S: 712, 12, 9 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0)

Since writing this post crznpch may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days. crznpch is a verified member, has been around for 1 year, 6 months and has 6 posts and 125 replies to their name.

Post Tags (10)

friends, marriage, god, Love, woman, Punishment, happiness, life, Drama, hand (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (12)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen

Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

dolphinluver10 3 #
GB | 1 year ago (29 minutes after post)

Give it time, you might be able to make it up with your ex-wife. It all depens on why it ende to be honest. If it is definately over then whats stopping you from finding more love, Go for it, life is too short to sit around waiting…

Help me with: My love of my life just died…

crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (46 minutes after post)

dolphinluver10 wrote:
Give it time, you might be able to make it up with your ex-wife. It all depens on why it ende to be honest. If it is definately over then whats stopping you from finding more love, Go for it, life is too short to sit around waiting…

Yea I know. I understand that if I just sit here. It will never come to me.

dolphinluver10 3 #
GB | 1 year ago (51 minutes after post)

then get out and work some magic, you cant just stop living because youvbe lost someone…

Help me with: My love of my life just died…

crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Yea you are right! I need that kind of motovation because my friends dont really know what to do with me anymore.
I guess I need to go out. Laying here in my house really messes with my mind and I start to feel sorry for myself.
BTW thank you for your replies.

dolphinluver10 3 #
GB | 1 year ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

no problem :P

Help me with: My love of my life just died…

This reply has been removed.

leasaan #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

Wow, 20 years, that’s a long time…You’re going thru wifey withdrawals: wanting to be with someone out of habit. Sounds like you already found your soul mate your ex wife.

Unfortunately, you will always search for what you had with your ex wife, making it almost impossible to really find true love and happiness.

I’m going thru a 26 year marriage divorce, been seperated for about 6 months, and he wants to come home; even though he’s the one who left me for someone else. I won’t take him back, though I’m miserable without him.

I’m a gorgeous, female truck driver and won’t have a problem finding someone, but right now, I’m enjoying some “ME” time (smile).

“Life is what it is, so you accept it and keep it moving”.

Good luck and God bless you.

This account has been deactivated.

stephaniehmariech #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

hi ive been reading the whole situation. my brain is empty can’t think of a good thing to say… but onething that is need to done… relax and leave it for the meantime. be yourself. meditate. try to think what is good and bad how come this happened. examine yourself what u want and what u aim to achieve… we all know.. healing a broken heart is never been easy… its just like treating a disease with multiple medications. think positive.. and pray. nothing is impossible with GOD ask his guidance and everything will just be fine. ( sorry i may not be good in giving advices for i never been married yet but for sure this is instinct with women. again.. be yourself enjoy life move on ask forgiveness if there is need to be.. always remember the word sorry doesnt lessen someones masculinity nor being sexy.
good luck

This account has been deactivated.

nonadaw #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (8 months, 3 weeks after post)

feel your pain…..and loneliness….hope you are feeling better these days….

This account has been deactivated.

crznpch 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (8 months, 3 weeks after post)

There will always be a place in my heart for her. I know she is happy with her new man. And her being happy and loved is all that is important to me.

I have a girlfriend now that I love very much. She and her children will be moving in with me in about 4 weeks.

Tears are words your heart cannot speak. And my heart still speaks through tears when I think of what I have done to the person who I thought was my soulmate forever.

Thank you for your reply……..Best Wishes!

David

nancy.mato 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (10 months, 2 weeks after post)

breaks my heart to see soulmates part……..someday i hope you reunite..god bless..

plantebander #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 1 day ago (1 year after post)

i feel you pain. im going through a similar situation.
im ashamed to talk about what has happened to me.
I get calls from her on a daily basis. she says she loves me. i know i love her.
i push her away.
she has someone new now but still calls me crying.
i push her away.
theres been alot of things done and said.
family torn apart
children caught up in the storm.
my heart is broken.
I met a new person she loves me so much. I love her as well yet shes not my wife.

This account has been deactivated.

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.

Love help: I destroyed my 20 year marriage & imediately moved on into a relationship with another woman thinking it would be the answer. - Help.com

I destroyed my 20 year marriage & imediately moved on into a relationship with another woman thinking it would be the answer.

Reciprocity (0)

Post Tags (10)

Replies (12)

Invite Others to Help

Help.com Homepage