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I don’t normally do this but I need some impartial advice.

I have a girlfriend, we’ve been together for just over 2 years. I’m really happy and we love each other. She loves her career too, i’ve never seen anyone so dedicated to what they do. Anyway, she’s just had a job offer that is perfect for her and she can’t turn it down, I wouldn’t let her - its too perfect. Unfortunately its in Chicago, and we currently live in England. It’s also 6 years long. There’s no way I can go with her, I’ve got to stay here. Also I don’t like long distance relationships as I’ve had a horrible experience with them. I don’t know what to do - I don’t think I can do a 6 year long distance thing, especially so far away and difficult to visit, but I love her and can’t bring myself just to end it. Any advice?

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I don’t normally do this but I need some impartial advice. I have a girlfriend, we’ve been together for just over a year. I’m really happy and we love each other. She loves her career too, i’ve never seen anyone so dedicated to what they do. Anyway, she’s just had a job offer that is perfect for her and she can’t turn it down, I wouldn’t let her - its too perfect. Unfortunately its in Chicago, and we currently live in England. It’s also 6 years long. There’s no way I can go with her, I’ve got to stay here. Also I don’t like long distance relationships as I’ve had a horrible experience with them. I don’t know what to do - I don’t think I can do a 6 year long distance thing, especially so far away and difficult to visit, but I love her and can’t bring myself just to end it. Any advice?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

No, sorry but you either go with her, try really hard long distance or just break up.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Is trying really hard long distance really that likely to work though?

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mumstheword offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

Yes long distance can work.

Been working for us all our married life.

We had no choice in the matter… except to fight to make it work against all odds.

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Sasha101 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (41 minutes after post)

Something you need to talk about hon, long distance relationships are based on trust, and if you think you have that then it should be ok. My husband is away a lot but we do see each other about twice a week but this is going to be much longer for you. Technology is wonderful these days you can stay in touch, just not physically.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 45 minutes after post)

Even though you dont like long distance relationships, i think this time itll b different because you’ve known her for so long you prob. love her and it wont hurt to try.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 5 minutes after post)

If you truley love her you would give up anything for her. ANYTHING, if not then you must part ways.

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