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I’m engaged to a firefighter and I know the statistics for emergency response marriages.

I’m scared, I love him to death but I need insight from people who know what my life will consist of once we’re married. Will he really be gone as much as statistics say? I just would like to know from people who’s married to, was married to or is the child of a firefighter. Please help, I want to know if I can truely “take the heat”.

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Nyxotic offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

If you’re engaged to him, shouldn’t you have spend enough time with him to know by now how much time he spends away and how much his job affects his personal life via stress and trauma? If you haven’t experienced any of these things, then you should probably wait to marry him until you have because no one else can predict how his job will affect your marriage. Every firefighter responds to the extreme conditions of his job somewhat differently.

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

I can’t say anything from experience on this one, but I doubt things will change once you’re married. If you can’t take it now you may want to put the wedding off until you’re sure you’re up to it.

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tricky offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 46 minutes after post)

screw the statistics ^_^

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

Im engaged to a man who is a firefighter and correctional officer!! I think the life is great!! I have been with him for 4 years and a year is how long he has been on it does get hard sometimes but that makes you want to support them even more!! Its not always as hard as people make it to think… Their job is hard and they just want to come home to a family that is loving and supporting and not getting on their case about how much they are gone… I know I get upset sometimes because he is gone for 4 hours but that is what makes them our heros and want to support them even more!! When they come home and tell you the stories about the lives they saved it just makes your heart melt and forget about what you were mad at in the beginging… and always remember they will stay after to talk about it with the boys!!! If you dont support them and their job then its gunna be one hard relationship!!! Live life a day at a time or it won’t turn out how you would want it!

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youwantlexie offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 10 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

Thank you so much! We’ve been together since we were thirteen so I don’t know why I was so worried. I’m very proud of him and I support him in his hard work. :)

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 months, 3 weeks after post)

Hi there. Come visit www.FireWives.com
We have a lot of women on there that can answer all your questions. We know what it’s like to love a firefighter!

Come join us!

www.FireWives.com

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (9 months after post)

Thank you so much for posting this. My husband is just begining this process of being a career paramedic/firefighter. I have been googling the statistics and I am freaked. I appreciate that comment… “screw the statistics”
Thanks much… any advice to couples just going into this?

-Thanks,

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