Love help: how do you tell your ex you miss her even tho she has a new bf - Help.com

I hate to say it but I doubt that she and this guy just met. If she is over things in a week I think she had this guy picked out :( I wouldn’t say anything to her, I’d stay far, far away

Women liked being chsed and coveted…
Im guessing the fact that you have done all you can to win her back is what will get her back…
So, if you want her back try youe level best to get her back, even if its something corny like flowers all throught the day or singing outside her window…
If she dosent do anything then, I guess its time you take a break from her and do your best to get over her…
Im guessing the internet bf is a kinda ploy to see how much you mean to her otherwise if its real its good your out of teh relationship…

All the best!

I would tell her you love her.Just send her an email or something. Or even do it in person. Just tell her everything you are feeling. If you have been dating for 4 years then that must have meant something to her.

She might have made this “online guy” up. My friend did that once. Just to see how her boyfriend would react. She wanted to see how much he actually loved her. I would give it a shot. There are sooo many other people in this world though. She don’t stay on her if it doesn’t work out.

don’t try to win her back. She is not worth your love. She left you for some one else. I know you are heartbroken now but you deserve some one who really loves you. You can and will find some one else who will love you and care about you as much as you do them

If she said she has stopped loving you, then you should forget about her. Let her pursue some vapid online romance. You can do better than date someone for four years who suddenly stops loving you!

If she truly wanted to work on the relationship with you, I think she would have. For whatever reason , she choose to break up with you. Baring your soul would be frutal. I would walk away with my pride intact, in spite of how much it hurts. Some people have to learn the hard way. She has no idea if this new online person she just meet, will work. If it doesn’t, she may want you back. You then will have to decide if this is the type of person you want to spend your life with. If she did this once, she can do it again. I think it best you move on. There is someone for everyone. Sadly it isn’t her. Eventually you will meet that special someone who will stay, and not leave you,because they want to. Best of luck to you, and I hope you make the right decision for your sake :)

Yes, it will hurt for awhile. However, you can get over this and start a new. Keep yourself busy and focus on meeting the one who is out there for YOU!!!!!

i am going through what you are going through. My ex said he stopped loving me got a new girlfriend and everything. Then he came back and I took him back. And he left me again. She will not change. It hurts but you have to move on. She has. Don’t be the guy she can fall back on because she will use you and it will only bring you more pain in the future

First are you sure she aint testing you?
Give it your best shot, then take a break from her for sometime i.e. cut all contact…
But if you dont try to win her back you will always wish you had!
You know that the worst feeling is to not have tried atall than to have tried and lost…
So if your tries dont work out then take a break from her for quite some time and then later hopefully you can be friends atleast…
But do try winning her back!

why are people telling this person to try to win some one back who says she does not love him?! That is bad advice. It will only lead to more hurt. Come on people!

I understand, missing some one you love is horrible but she is not worth it.

Because if he hasnt tried he will always regret not trying!
But once he tries he will know for sure she has no feelings for him or weather she has and begin to move on…
Thing is with your guy its a different situation, guys once they dump yo uthey only want you back when their lonely… firls from my understanding are bit different…
And here she inst asking to be back with him… he is…

how is it different with girls? She has a new boyfriend. Girls who care about their boyfriends do not dump them and get a new bf within a week. Girls who love their boyfriends don’t test them. Only girls who are insecure or just want to play games act like that. And he shouldn’t want a girl like that. She already told him that she doesn’t love him. Why should he pour his heart out when she will just tell him that again?

So leave her be. It’s hard but you have to do it. She’s not thinking of you she’s not missing you. She is with her new boyfriend. Don’t give her the time of day anymore. And don’t waste anymore thoughts on her.

Well!
If you tried then you know she dosent care bout you…
So, tell her that the only way you can get over her is to cut all contact and maybe in the future you can be firends again but not for now as you still have alot of feelings for her wish you could be together but, she says that she dosent care bout you in the same way…
Cutting all contact is an appropriate way to get over her…

Thats why I guess she is mainly trying to see how much she means to you…
But then I could be wrong…
And well you did check with his GF…
So, if she so easily moves to another guy, then as most of us said over here that she is fickle minded and not worth it!
All the best and dont get drunk over her its not worth it!

If you keep thinking of her constantly you are never going to get over her. Distance yourself from her, from him and from the guys ex. don’t try to figure out whats going on between them, it WON’T make you feel any better. Focus on you. Do things you like to do, go out with your friends, do an activity you enjoy. STOP worrying about her

well… it’s hard to move on… it’s one of life’s BIGGEST hurts. I understand… I lost my girlfriend the same way in August. But you read my other post, so I think you know where I’m coming from. You want to remember… you want to remember all the good AND bad things about her. No doubt there were some pretty troubled times before she broke up with you. You have to remember how she treated you… and you have to remember how she betrayed you. You don’t have to be pissed at her (although you will be some) and you don’t have to be head over heals in love with her (although some of your love will always be there for her.)… but you DO have to remember all the good AND bad of her. Don’t turn to anything to deaden your pain… that is a mask that will only prolong your suffering. And you do have to let her go. She made the choices for both of you. Yes, that was wrong, but she did it. She’s made her bed, now let her sleep in it.

Go and meet some new people! do something new you have never done. You will feel better soon! Goodnight

Kinda agree with Richard on how to get over her as well as do cut all contact atleast for a small period of time…

And as my other post says… focus on yourself. You became a part of a couple. So the person you were before you were with her has taken a back seat for a while. Remember it was that person that attracted her to you… and can attract someone else to you know. So NOW focus on becoming that hot babe magnet everyone knows you are :) You’re free man… and trust me, there are alot of women out there that don’t cheat on their men… and they deserve someone like YOU.

Just as a reminder… here’s the full post on surviving a break up.

http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-it

Good luck :)

hey man i know how you feel. im trying to get pass my days like you, feels ******. i know she’ll always be on your mind but hey man that’s life. just have to be even stronger and move on. easy to say then done. i really think if shes yours and she loves you, she’ll end up going back to you one day. if you are just living your days being sad and thinking of her, its going to be a long day. hope you get over this man. best of luck and stay strong =)