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Hello i am a son of a singe mother, my father was an abusive husband since we were young…

I live in the Bronx and i try so hard to help my mother… i have a dead beat brother who tries but cant get his priorities straight… i have a sister who doesn’t really seem to know about finances… I got myself a Honda civic 2006 and i missed one payment and it seems like Ive never payed my car notes (and i have payed five).. the rent is backed up we got credit card bills up the ***… all the jobs i get are based on grunt work with no decent pay… I am studying psychology and i am about to graduate on may 2009 but i feel like i wont be able to get a decent job because of my grades (due to my learning deficit which is not that bad since my father left)… I need help I need a job i want to help my mother i want to marry my girlfriend but i look at myself in the mirror and i tell myself you can do it knowing that it might not be as easy as i say it… i know life is not easy but i need to help my mom sister and myself… can some one lead me to a decent job that pays more than eleven dollars an hour doing grunt work. I need to be surrounded by smart people. I need to get away from repetitive work with people who don’t believe in themselves… i am a good drawer and sculptor but i feel like what i do wont help me in the ghetto i live in. people have it worse out there but i have the means to get better and i am trying to use them… some one please help us… some one light the way… i am bilingual i am good at helping people but i usually don’t get help back… we have struggled for too long in a country of riches! break these chains of mental poverty help us get through the humiliation and i will repay the blessing by helping some one else again…

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Angel-T offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (23 minutes after post)

You are so special. Its people like you that make a difference in the world. I know you feel trapped by your circumstances, but you need to keep shining and you WILL succeed.

Maybe you need to stop taking everything so seriously. Im not saying walk away from your responsibilities with your family but you need to start having some fun. Allow yourself to enjoy something without the thought of work, money etc…

You must try and stop seeing yourself as if “in a hole”. Instead, see this as the foundation stage of your life. In other words, it is actually your difficult situation now, which is helping to make you into this wonderful human being.
You might not see this right now, but oneday you will look back and realise that the struggle was in fact a gift which has aided your learning.

Do not feel a victim and know that all your hard work will pay off. I am a firm believer that the wheel will turn. Also, dont stop helping people. By helping people you are in fact helping yourself. Help will come to you from and when you least expect it… Just keep going… Your are wonderful…

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pathwrec offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 hours, 5 minutes after post)

thank you Angel-T

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