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I think first you sound like you know what you want to do. Also guys keep close to their chest, my boyfriend started talking about working in Dubai and I was like hang on what about me, his answer was well you would come, sometimes they just asume, well my boyfriend does anyway, have you spoken to him about it yet?

I hope he is assuming too! (if he does have to move). We just talked about this two nights ago, so I wanted to try and let the initial “shock?” sink in first..before I brought that up. I didn’t want to have a talk and get irrational. I know this is a sensitive subject and it has to be approached with a clear mind. This is the first time I’ve dealt with something like this, and I don’t want to act like a baby about it, you know? I guess there’s that voice in the back of my mind saying “what if he tells you to stay here and continue your life?” That’s probably the LAST thing I’d want to hear! I know he would never want me to make big sacrifices for him, but I want to if he has to go. Almost everything I do involves him.

Cakes, were you guys living together already when he talked about moving to Dubai?

No we are moving in together once we get the expense of Christmas over, luckily his company didn’t make him redundant so we didn’t need to consider Dubai, I am just like you tho my whole life involves him we have only been together a year tho not 2, I couldn’t imagine being without him, I know that little voice in the back of your head too well( well my head not yours obviously) you do have to think clearly and he would appreciate that from you I am sure. Has he mentioned how far like just another state. Are you in the states or would he also be talking other countries because really this should be a joint decision as it will effect both your lives

I am so glad you read my post, btw! :)
You know exactly how I feel about this!

We do live in the states. He is pretty lost right now. He’s one of those people that MUST work or he just can’t figure out what to do with himself. So when I was asking him about the distance, he said he has no idea. He doesn’t know what to do or where to look or anything. So he’s taking it one step at a time. That’s why I didn’t want to overwhelm him with my concerns right off. He does seem to get a little back to normal each day. He is now calling the two weeks of pay his vacation (which he very well deserves!) And he seemed pretty positive this morning about things :) He’s been a little hard to talk to since it happened. Pretty quiet, which is unusual. Until part of yesterday and this morning.
I really like your last sentence. This really should be a joint decision as it will effect both of our lives.

Yeah it will hugely, My boyfriend went unusually quite and as a loud chatterbox I think I just wound him up ;p
Maybe once he starts applying for jobs you could ask where in his plan he sees you, need to take baby steps with our fragile men, Dubai scared me at first but I would have definatly gone with him just too see how it worked out as I know I could always come home if needed, it’s that he is feeling more positive now what does he do maybe he was just blowing off steam and doesn’t himself want to move to far, I know deep down my boyfriend would have never left his family espscially his nephew