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to be honest he sounds like a nob head… what do you get from the relationship (if you can call it that)

get rid of him. There must be some place around for you to get cheap used coats or free ones if you qualify. You shouldn’t be buying him cigarettes if you can’t buy your kids coats.

Why on earth is he your boyfriend ? What a jerk.

Stop buying his cigarettes.

Ask yourself why he’s still living with his mum.

Sounds to me like he’s used to living comfortably off women…

You owe it to your kids to make sure your priorities are in the right order.

Your kids should be at the top of the list.

So I am not expecting to much of this man that I have been with for a while to pitch in and help I could never EVER know that his kids were going with out and if I had the money not go out and buy them coats or what ever else I could!!
He lives with his mom because he got a divorce but he does live quiet comfortably at her expense for the most part, she pays all the bills buys all the food buys his kids WHATEVER they need all of the christmas presents they get everything, all he has to take care of is his child support, and his own car and credit card bills that is it! I just feel like I am drowning and he does not care, with Christmas coming I have told him I don’t know what I am going to do and I get nothing no support no comforting words NOTHING!!!

I think you deserve better. If he loves you, he’d pitch in. I help my bf all the time and he helps me too. It’s a give and take. I’d dump his sorry @ss.

First thing I’d advise, is “DO NOT” buy him xmas presents.

Hello Anonymous,
Sorry to hear your hubby is a lazy person, but please give him an ultimatum help out or get out! You shouldn’t be buying him cigarettes he doesn’t deserve it it is about time he learns not everything comes to him on a silver platter.

Christmas presents? I can;t afford to buy anyone anything!!!
I just really believe that he bekieves he is better than me
I think that he looks down on me because I struggle! He thinks that I am a weak parent I have 3 teenage boys and do my best it is harder than anything you could ever imagine and he he does get it because when he has his kids his mommy is htere to help him all the time does all the cooking and the laundry so it is like he has a house partner it is not the same to do it ALL alone!!

I’ll bet he smokes those cigarettes you bought him in front of your kids, too. Right?

You cannot be a serious boyfriend/girlfriend and let the other person drown . . . unless the other person is some kind of addict. He’s a complete jerk for not helping you out.

You need to look elsewhere for a boyfriend.

When my ex husband and I filed our taxes one year I found out he was making almost $100,000 a year. I was making about $25,000 at the time. Yet every month he didn’t have his half of the rent and utilities and I always paid them. In full. and he never paid me back. He always insisted he didn’t make enough money. When I found out he was making almost 4 times what I made…. well we divorced shortly thereafter.

(There were other circumstances in our marriage though, too).

Ditch him. Quickly. It will onyl get worse.

I am just so hurt I can’t understand we do nothing we sit home every night and watch t.v even when I don’t have my kids and we could go do something fun we don’t we do nothing!! When is is sitting at my house he complains about everything what my kids do and do not do how perfect his kids are how is such an honorable man and he deserve every good thing life has to offer. I am basically a nothing that was put hjere for his enjoyment to make fun of point out every flaw I have telling me how out of control my kids are or making refernces on how they will be drinking and doing drugs before to long if they are not already just a constant assult of everything about me all the time!

I think you know the answer to this one.

Get rid.

Good luck hun x

So, Anon, I deduce that you are living in a town with a population of 16, somewhere in the badlands of South Dakota? No? Then I must deduce that there are more guys in your town than this one. You are undoubtedly able to see why he is divorced. I’ll bet he constantly criticized his first wife, and probably constantly criticized his kids, as well. And I’ll also bet that he was so tight with his family that he squeaked when he walked.

And he’s squeaking in your relationship, too. He’s basically selfish and unable to empathize with others. He sounds narcissistic to me . . . thinks the world of himself, can’t feel the pain of others.

Lose this guy NOW, and don’t let him use you any more!

P.S. You ARE getting child support, aren’t you? Please don’t tell me you’re one of those mothers who let an irresponsible father “walk” without having to pay!

No he pays some child support but not much!

I hope he’s paying about $400 per month per child!

If not . . . go back to the court!

And I hope you find a decent man soon. After two losers, you are due for a real break!

dump him for his Xmas present.

It actually sounds so like me!!! The difference is that your boyfriend works and makes money… mines doesn’t. But from the little things you said I will run!! as quick as I can because If he has the way to help you and he still does nothing about it… I will call it OVER. Seriously I think he does not care about you if he acts like that. Think of you, your kids and go ahead make a change if you have to and if you have the courage to end it. Just do it. Good luck