Love help: Im falling for a girl, whos is considered to be my best friend. - Help.com

Personal experience leads my thoughts towards, “or is she just using me for all the good things I can provide. ” …. but I’ve been wrong before.

most likley using you. even if its not on purpose. dont fall to hard my friend there are other people out there… i messed up my whole life because i fell for my best friend. Its not something i would do givin a second chance.

We REALLY dont have enough information here about how shes been acting to make that call. You know best of all of us and I dont mean to descredit the people posting me but how on earth can they make the call? We dont know what signs shes been displaying, all we know is she avoids the topics. Maybe if you give us a little more info we can tell you something.

True Snar, but as I mentioned, I’m basing my statement from personal experience then quoting the post.

same here… and really my warning is just dont get to close untill your sure she feels the same.

Right, just making sure the poster knew that, thanks guys :).

Well, when id call her to come to my place she would. She wants to me to visit her all the time, i do. She asks me if I would ever hurt her, and to express my feelings to her.She just is always giving me this little hints that she does, but will never actually say or express that she does. She recently came down for my birthday, took work off and all. She had to drive 2 hours the next morning to work, then drove right back. Isnt that mean something?

Still sounds like my Ex Wife

I hope I’m wrong in your case, but I’m the ultimate pessimist in cases like this

Anonymous wrote:
Well, when id call her to come to my place she would. She wants to me to visit her all the time, i do. She asks me if I would ever hurt her, and to express my feelings to her.She just is always giving me this little hints that she does, but will never actually say or express that she does. She recently came down for my birthday, took work off and all. She had to drive 2 hours the next morning to work, then drove right back. Isnt that mean something?

Well she obviously cares about you. Why dont you ask her her feelings directly, maybe even put your own out there? Have you done this?

She always says “why are you in such a hurry”

I DO! but its always a run around with that subject…she seems to always say ..”well im here ( like when were together) doesnt that mean something..I wouldnt be here if i didnt”…well yeah I guess..but why cant she just tell me so? To..put my mind at ease.

On the flip side of the coin, there are a lot of women that have a hard time (if they even know how) showing emotions.

Well, i guess I should mention she was with a guy for 6 years through high school and got screwed over by him. Its been two years…do you think this is a reason why? Or again she doesnt want to tell me the TRUTH ..and lose the friendship? Im just totally confused

Could be she really got nailed hard by this guy and is afraid to let anyone get that close ever again.

I just dont get why she just cant tell me the truth, good or not?

eh sounds familiar. using you, doesnt like you in the way you like, just wants to be friends.

My current girlfriend is a really loving individual, but she has a hard time expressing herself. I know she loves me, she just has a hard time showing it. Very similar reactions to those you’ve described.

Maybe. I just wanna put my mind at ease. I just think that she thinks shell lose me if she tells me or gets physical. I told her that Ive never had feelings like Ive had for her and I still get zip. CONFUSED :)

Good luck, but honestly, to me it sounds like you’re, “In the friend zone…”

Sweeeeeeet.. ha

Well mnwildfan, sounds like you need to be direct and up front and to the point. TEll her you really want to know and it seems like shes being indirect with you adn that youd kind of like a definitive answer.

I was the last time I saw her last week. And there was nothing. Then she tells me she had to talk to her dad about for an hour and half..becuase I..confuse her?
What is that..i do not. She confuses me

Rule 1: Women + men = perpetual state of confusion
Rule 2: When in doubt, see rule #1.

Haha thats good.

Ok, this is something ive heard from my crazy mom. She says if its so hard stop trying..it should be something that is a good thing. Then ive heard from someone is that give her the cold shoulder for a few days or so and how she responds..i mean..what step should I take now

Your mom gave you good advice… If it happens, it happens. If not, don’t loose any sleep over it. or the, “whatever” attitude..

mnwildfan88 wrote:
Ok, this is something ive heard from my crazy mom. She says if its so hard stop trying..it should be something that is a good thing. Then ive heard from someone is that give her the cold shoulder for a few days or so and how she responds..i mean..what step should I take now

I think there is a point where you need to let her know, she needs to be clear with you or…you two will have to remain friends, and if she says sure…then…well thats what you gotta do.

so…snar what your saying is I should ask her..and if its nothing say adios…and if she has feelings for me…stay the way we are? Im a little confused

Im saying, you tell her that if things are ever gunna go past friendship, wether she wants it or not… she has to directly telly ou what shes feeling and if she cant do that then your making the decision for both of you that it cant happen.

I see. Thats something I could consider. Even though shed prolly turn it around and call me selffish or something like that

mnwildfan88 wrote:
I see. Thats something I could consider. Even though shed prolly turn it around and call me selffish or something like that

Even if shed call you that, we both know its not true… you cant have a relationship with someone if they arent gonna be open about their feelings.

Yeah, I guess. Its just a very weird relationship. Every couple that is together wants to be like us, and are jealous the way we look and talk to eachother. And maybe its me trying to hard, and I am pushing her.

IF everyone in the world thought you two looked great together, it wouldnt matter unless you felt right about it.

yeah i guess…the next few days or weeks will decide something i would hope

I feel right about it..I guess I just keep believing that actions speak louder than words