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If someone makes that choice, IT IS _NOT_ YOUR FAULT. That is their choice and while it’s incredibly tragic, it’s NOT your fault.

have you got that person’s phone number?

If not then ring their dad and ask for their number… and then ring them…

It’s better to do it sooner than later.

First paragraph: I don’t think so. Not entirely. We typically decide that the responsibility of an individual’s actions rest with that individual. There are some cases where responsibility is shared. Like if a person is provoked into doing something, that can be a mitigating factor. But no. I would not go so far as that.

If you have suspicions that someone you know may be thinking about suicide, please don’t hesitate to tell a trusted adult. I know you might be worried about being wrong, or what the person might think about you, but it is easier to ask forgiveness from a person than it is to bring someone back from the dead.

its not your fault… you probably wantef that person to know the truth….
you did your job and it was his own decision.
dont feel guilty!!!!

Seems like you have two questions: one about whether you or anyone really can be held responsible for someone else’s suicide and another practical question about finding out whether this person is still alive.

We all affect each other in unseen ways. It’s sometimes surprisingly *tempting* to take responsibility for another’s suicide if only to make sense of it. I think (as an example of this kind of thing) some of my friends wanted to feel responsible for their parents’ divorcing…of course they weren’t responsible for it, but deep down they wonder if they were. But I think it’s self-destructive to wonder if your best efforts to help someone might have caused them to choose self-destruction, even though you’re courageous to ask yourself that question. The question is really spiritual and therefore unknowable in this life. It’s surprisingly easy, I’ve found anyway, to find black holes that suck me down into dark feelings and no answers. I think if I wanted to I could spend years on these questions…but it would be a waste, an oddly tempting waste.

As to your second question…like you say, no need to rush unless you feel you can help them. If you think you can help them, then why not swing by where they live or work and try to catch them there?

BTW, I always enjoy your posts.

its not ur fault.it was their decision not yours

awww:(
if ur that worried get in touch with them.is it someone close if i may ask?

No!
Whatever this information you gave to them was, they could have got it some other way!
So you cannot blame yourself my friend!