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Does anyone have any advice for me?

I got a job interview with the worst interviewer in the world. I have worked in this department store for 4 years. I’ve had different positions in store but now a big opening has come up that will totally improve my career. It’s a supervisor job in my department. I already know how to most of the supervisor jobs such as inputing rotas, helping run the department, merchandising the department. The previous supervisor has now become the manager and she is doing my interview for the supervisor job. She is an extremely strong leader and a very strong person in general. She is barely over 5ft but she is loud and doesn’t let anything pass her. She could make any grown person cry. Shes not horrible, she just comes across as very, very strong and it can be a scary experience. Out of all the people in the store I’m the only one who knows how the department runs so I have the advantage, but because I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder last year I’ve tried very hard to combat it, but I’m not entirely there so the store manager has expressed he is worried I might not have the people skills and leadership skills they are looking for. I am a scout leader, I can lead and I’m excellent at dellogating and I’m extremely bright and learn quickly. But, because my manager is very strong and overpowering it’s hard to show what I could be capable of.

My interview is in 2 days and I need to be extremely prepared. Does anyone have any advice for me that would help me keep my nerves in check. I don’t want to be like I was in my driving test as I was nearly sick everywhere. I also don’t want to end up crying. I wouldn’t really bother me but I have wanted a position like this for over a year and this could change my life. I don’t want to screw it up. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

I also have to mention that this woman thinks she’s always right, and because she is going through the menopause she is a bit loopy and misinterprets most things you say.

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soza offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Get a different job there are plenty out there.

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kitt e offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

Hmm. Well it sounds like you are in the best possible position you could be to apply for this job. You said you know more about how the department runs than anyone else. And you’ve been there for a few years…plus you’re inside the company already…so they know how well you work and everything. You’re a shoe-in!

I know the kind of lady you’re talking about. I think..probably the best thing to do would be to be as agreeable as you can with her (even though she may not be completely right about some things). Those ladies are HARD to deal with, I know. So you just have to add a little extra charm. I don’t mean to flirt with her or anything..(haha) but just be charming. Be friendly and sometimes it’s good to ask the interview some questions too. But just be yourself! Also, you could search on the internet for typical interview questions and think about how you’d answer them. That way, at least you’ll have some kind of idea what to expect…since you’ve had a job for four years, you’re probably abit rusty on the interview process! :)

Just try to start all this studying interview questions and stuff today, so that in a couple days when it’s interview time, you aren’t all stressed out and nervous. You’ve been there…you just need to show them how you are very capable of moving up.
Remember, no matter how this turns out, you will be proud of yourself for giving it a shot.

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Mushroom8 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

I know what you mean. I always agreed with her even though she would be wrong but since she got the managers job and I maybe getting more responsibility it’s incredibly hard to communicate with her, worried about saying the wrong thing because she will attack you verbally if you say the littlest thing wrong, and with my social anxiety that’s my weakness. So, it will be good to work on that for the next couple of days. I’m going to make an appointment with my councillor next week as if I do get the job I may need some help to get along with this person.

I’m going to go and put questions together, because I’ve interviewed someone with her before so I know what kind of questions she asks, so I do have an advantage there too. But, if I write down answers to questions then I know what to say when the question comes up. I will go do that.

Also, Soza, I’m wanting this job, not just any job. Also, I live in a small town where jobs are few. Only jobs that there is loads of is supermarket and call centre workers, where I would earn less in. I’m trying to go up the ladder, not down it. I’m not going to give up now I’ve come this far.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

That sounds good :) Let us know how it goes??

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