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What is the relationship between online chatting and cheating in real life?

Is flirting online a gateway to trouble? Is it OK to keep your online life secret from your boyfriend/girlfriend?

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I want out offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

A good guideline to follow, is if you would not say it in front of your boy/girlfriend it is questionable behaviour.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

well, yea, seeing as everyone’s lives are online nowadays it may be just a little inappropriate to flirt with someone not in a relationship with you. I’m not your conscience though, or your mother haha, so I can’t tell you what to do. However, if it feels wrong or questionable, it probably is.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 days, 14 hours after post)

Considering this is how I’ve been burned in my marriage, yes, flirting online is the gateway to trouble. It shouldn’t matter if the boyfriend/girlfriend you’re with isn’t the person you’re intending to spend the rest of your life with, you shouldn’t keep something like that from them.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 days, 4 hours after post)

Confused: Very sorry to hear about your trouble. It hurts a lot. fyi, I am not the flirter, but the “bruised” portion of the pair, like you. What I want to know (and maybe you dont know) is how the jump from online to real life actually happens. It may be too painful a time for you to tell details, but I really am looking for the mechanism which makes that happen. for example, here on help.com, a lot of flirting goes on, but I really don’t see a way for any private communication. ive never seen a phone number or email adress posted. im wondering if I should just chill out about the situation or look for signs of making the “jump”.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 week after post)

Well, if the person is smart then they wouldn’t just put it all out there for everyone to see. I’ve only been onto this site a couple times, so I’m not familiar with all the features yet, but if there’s a way to send a private message then that’s how they would more than likely exchange numbers, e-mail addresses, etc. You could look at the history on the computer that’s being used to see if anything suspicious is in there.

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