marriage help: alcohol is my main problem i have already lost my marriage n - Help.com

I am assuming that you have sought help for your problem. You can not beat this alone. I have alcoholics in my family and they have to totally abstain from drinking in order to get their lives together.

Some people delude themselves into thinking that I am the exception. I should be able to drink just a little, or I can have some once in awhile, etc. The only real answer is total abstainous.

The reactions to alcohol are the same as reactions to bad medicine. If you had a reaction to a coughing syrup or a prescription drug would you continue to take it? No! It’s the same with alcohol. Your body can not deal with it and because the body is basically stupid, it craves what it shouldn’t have. Why does it crave it? Because it creates an L-dopamine effect in the brain and the brain likes that sensation. The same sensation that occurs for those people who take drugs.

So go forward with your life and leave alcohol alone. You can not be a moderate drinker. Join organizations that don’t promote drinking in order to be a member. There are churches of various denominations that have groups that get together, the choice is yours.

Don’t wait til your entire life is sacrificed for a bottle of booze. It’s not worth it to lose family, friends, and as you say relationships. Good Luck

you sound so much like my dad. please go to an alcholics anonymous group before you lose everything.
do something about it before you start to feel the long term effects.

my dad wont do anthing about and it so painful watching someone that you love trow away their lifes for a ******* drink

I’m sorry, I don’t understand. Who are we talking about you or your father?